The Differences Between How Men And Women Schedule Love
You know how most of the time when you get upset with your guy he seriously has no idea he’d done anything wrong? And you know how it’s usually over how he schedules/plans (or doesn’t schedule/plan) things? That’s because men and women have completely different beliefs on how to schedule love.
Women: Let’s go to dinner at 7
Translation: “My purse will be packed and we are leaving when you get here because I planned my meals today to be hungry by this time and I am hungry.”
Men: Let’s “go to dinner” at 7
Translation: “I have no idea what exactly I’ll be doing at 7, but I will be home—I could be still watching a TV show, or in the shower, or just getting home myself. But we can talk and drink and leave whenever we feel like it.” Cue the hungry, angry woman who banked on at least seeing a bread basket by 7:45.
Women: Let’s do something Saturday!
Translation: “By the latest 2pm on Saturday we should get together. I am keeping the whole day open, telling my friends who asked me to go to brunch that I’m busy with you.”
Men: Let’s do something Saturday!
Translation: “By the latest 2pm on Saturday…I’ll call you and we can make plans to hang out that night.” To guys, the daytime on the weekends is for having no particular schedule and just doing laundry/chilling until nighttime.
Women: Let’s have date night Thursday
Translation: “Let’s set a specific time we are meeting up, and have a specific plan that entails things we don’t normally do like go to a new restaurant or go to a live show or pick out a fun recipe to make together.”
Men: Let’s have date night Thursday
Translation: “Let’s set a specific time and…I promise I won’t even be showering or watching TV or just getting home when you arrive at that time. I’ll be totally present, focusing on you. And then we can maybe watch TV together, or just see what we feel like doing.”
Women: Let’s meet up with friends tonight
Translation: “Let’s reach out to our friends right now, several hours in advance, and see what everyone is doing and make a plan of when and where we’ll meet them.”
Men: Let’s meet up with friends tonight
Translation: “Let’s just do our thing and when we’re ready to expand the group, we can call people and see what they’re doing and just go tag along with whatever they’ve already got planned.”
Women: Sunday is errands day for me
Translation: “It could be fun to go to the supermarket together and go to the laundry mat together then fold clothes at my place while we order takeout, don’t you think?”
Men: Sunday is errands day for me
Translation: “So I’ll get my stuff done solo and be over at your place in the evening just in time for takeout.”
Women: You want to stop by right now?
Translation: “Clearly I’m not important enough to actually make a plan in advance to see.”
Men: Can I stop by right now?
Translation: “I happened to finish what I was doing early and thought seeing you would be a nice way to end my day!”
Women: Let’s go to bed now…
Translation: “Let’s go to bed early enough to still have time to mess around and go to bed at a reasonable hour. Or, even more importantly, when we both still have the energy to mess around.”
Men: Let’s go to bed now…
Translation: “Woah, I just fell asleep in front of the TV. Let’s just go to sleep.”
Women: We should do double date night
Translation: “Let’s be couply with another couple.”
Men: we should do date night
Translation: “That way I get to hang with my friend and do date night, in the same night, killing two birds with one stone. I’m basically just going to talk to my friend the whole night though but expect brownie points as if it were a date night.”