How to End a Relationship Nicely

March 25, 2011  |  

Not all break-ups in your various relationship types have to be nasty. Here are a few tips on how to end a relationship nicely…


Discuss the positives and initiate the game plan
In ending a relationship that hasn’t been thoroughly poor, it might be helpful for you and the other party to acknowledge the positive stretch thus far. Offer a brief reflection of the positive contributions the relationship has made to your life, then initiate the game plan: which could be you moving out of a house shared with your partner, for example, or you moving out of an office. The same general rules apply for romantic relationships as they do work and school relationships.

If discussion can’t happen, write a respectful letter
Sometimes, relationships need to end via written word. If the other person is not available for discussion, write a respectful letter that highlights the positives as mentioned, and bids adieu. When something wonderful, short and sweet is written today, it could be a healing tool for tomorrow, the day after or years after, so that you and the other party have positive feelings about your break-up.

Respect the boundaries – don’t tease or taunt or lead on
Once you’ve made the decision to break up, it isn’t nice to linger or pretend as if you haven’t broken up. Doing so might taunt the other person and make him or her feel like there’s still hope. Imagine how much more horrible the break-up feeling will be for the other person, if there’s really not enough hope at all! Make a clean break. Don’t tease, don’t taunt, and don’t lead the other person on.

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