Uhmm. Should I offer to pay the bill on a date, every now and then? I am a bit old-fashioned…
Billion-dollar Bill Question
Dear Billion-dollar Bill Question,
I’ve said before that: going “Dutch” on the first few dates sounds borderline ridiculous. Men make profoundly more money in society, and have more opportunities than women, and this new idea that men and women are equal and women should therefore start splitting every bill known to man, is just bizzarre. Financially responsible men have a fundamental understanding–call it an instinct–to provide.
I’m not suggesting that you should never go Dutch (or even treat your man to dates), or that you can’t make more money than your man. But, going Dutch every single bloody time, particularly in the beginning of dating, has to make one question his instinct to provide. Even if you get serious in the relationship, and split certain bills later–at home, an adult man should be able to factor one-on-one dates with his woman, as part of his budget–and do so in a responsible way.
I’m not necessarily talking five-star restaurants for every single date–because if he can’t afford those restaurants, then that too would be financially irresponsible. Still, if you notice that a guy you have just met, can’t pay for anything solo (including the balance of your takeout salad), then you should ask yourself whether he’s financially responsible enough for a relationship, and for wife-child provision, should he catch your inner wedding eye. Chances are, he’s not.
Au revoir cherie, et bon chance,
~ Madame C.