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In today’s day and age where it seems as though there are more divorces than lasting marriages and infidelity more than faithfulness in relationships, sometimes it seems as if there is little hope for those who desire a meaningful love connection. However, every now and then a single unattached person finds a ray of hope in a newfound love interest and pours their all into the person and the potential love affair. They call, text, and make themselves available for their special someone even when they don’t have time to show them that they are on board and want to start a fresh new relationship. While there’s nothing wrong with having unbridled dedication to the one you want or the one you’re with, there is a thin line between being dedicated and being thirsty for your man, or a potential relationship in general. Believe it or not, there is a difference. The difference between being thirsty for a relationship and simply giving to the person you’re with or want to be with is giving them enough attention to let them know you’re interested, but not so much to the point where you’re smothering them.

While it’s important to to do this, one must be careful not to slip into thirst mode without recognizing it. A few ways to tell if you’re a tad bit thirsty for a relationship includes the following:

  • If you always make yourself available to and for your love interest even when you know you have a lot going on.
  • You mention being in an official relationship with your potential mate frequently.
  • You’re willing to lower your standards deep for a relationship.
  • You’re willing to knowingly become a side piece for a man you know is still involved with someone else.
  • You settle for less than what you deserve.

While it is hard not to want to give someone your attention in hopes of securing a relationship, in the bigger scope of things, it’s not worth you stooping so low to the point where you look or become desperate. And while I understand the strong desire to have companionship, I also understand the importance of having basic standards when it comes to matters of the heart. So how does a person prevent themselves from displaying the thirst?

Know your worth. Many times people seek validation from others to feel special or important, but if they took the time to get to know who they are for themselves and accept who they are no matter what,  they wouldn’t need the approval of others.

Don’t believe the hype! What’s the hype? Believing that there aren’t any good single men or women available to have healthy, productive relationships with. There are!

Get a life and enjoy quality me time! Doing this will occupy your time and allow you to keep your mind off of your mate or potential 24/7 boo.

Don’t always make yourself available to them. I know this can be a hard thing to do, but try your best not to answer every call or respond to every text immediately. Occupy your time wisely and keep them guessing and chasing you.

This one is for the ladies…Keep your options open and your legs closed! Sorry if that sounds harsh. What I’m trying to say is that if you are an unattached single adult, you have the right to date around with more than one person until you decide to settle down in a monogamous relationship. You shouldn’t sell yourself short by focusing on one person, especially if they aren’t solely focused on you. Not only that, but don’t sleep with every attractive guy you date. Not doing this will keep you from being emotionally attached to different men and keep your heart from being shattered in the long-run.

While I know it can be difficult to keep your mind off of the one you want to be with, it’s important to do so for yourself. The bottom line is that no matter how much you call, text, sex or make yourself available, a person is going to do what they want, with or without you. The best way not to be thirsty for a relationship is to quench your own thirst by having a relationship with the best person in your world. Who is that you ask? Take a look in the mirror.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin

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