From Failure To Fearless: Kisha Mays’ New Book Advises That You Fake It Until You Make It
Welcome to our weekly column, Reset. Written by Karen Taylor Bass, this column, published each Tuesday, is about life lessons learned and mastered mentally, spiritually, and physically and how they contribute to a successful life and career.
How many of us are faking it through life right now? Pretending all is good: the marriage, the children, bank account and career. Yes. To some extent, we are all faking it.
Is it still possible to fake it, learn from the failure and ultimately become fearless to win? Kisha Mays is a successful entrepreneur, global business strategist and author of the new ebook, From Failure to Fearless: Still Completely Flawed BUT Thriving Fearlessly. In it, she details her many public failures and how she overcame them in a vulnerable way and pressed RESET. I chatted with Mays about the importance of failure, challenges and living the best life possible.
MadameNoire: Tell me about Kisha?
Kisha Mays: I was born in Chicago, raised in Houston and moved to New York at the age of 23. I always wanted to explore life and became a travel agent for Continental Airlines. I got fired and decided to start living fearlessly.
MN: Why did you write the book From Failure to Fearless?
KM: I wanted to document my journey from working numerous internships to getting into the music industry; managing two offices as an office manager at a happy ending spot; bankruptcy; and, launching a successful company empowering women through conferences and workshops on a shoestring budget with commitments from Jillian Michaels and Suze Orman.
MN: What is the message in the book?
KM: You can’t truly succeed if you are timid – failure is necessary to succeed.
MN: What led you from failure to fearless?
KM: I was walking too fast and didn’t bother to crawl. In 2007, I decided to create a gala to empower women and girls. I had no event planning experience, money and contacts however decided to live fearlessly. The event not only sold out, I secured the talented actress, singer, former Miss America, Vanessa Williams as an honoree, sponsorship dollars and a swank hotel to host the event in New York. What I did not do was take the time to debrief from the first event and started to plan a national conference right after with commitments from health guru, Jillian Michaels and financial powerhouse, Suze Orman. The event tanked, and, thankfully the divas did not sue me.
MN: How did you press RESET?
KM: I took the time to learn from my mistakes, grow and accept failure/responsibility. Then I wrote a plan and launched my company, Just Fearless LLC. My goal is to help women and entrepreneurs create successful strategic partnerships through business development and to live fearlessly.
MN: What was the startup cost when you launched your company?
KM: It was cheap — under $1000 (laptop, post box, office supplies) — and I secured a free Google voice number.
MN: What advice would you give to women wanting to live fearlessly?
KM: Stop wanting to live fearlessly … simply live and do your homework.
Karen Taylor Bass’ RESET: Always remember that baby steps count. Even when you think you are not moving, that is when you are truly growing and evolving. Sometimes you have to take a step back in order to take a couple steps forward. And you’ll be the better for it.