#OhHellNo: 5 Ways To Cure Jealousy In Relationships

August 15, 2014  |  

 

 

By Susie & Otto Collins, From YourTango 

Sam feels frustrated after a visit with his doctor. His blood pressure is high and he’s developing a stomach ulcer. None of these health conditions are a big surprise to Sam. He’s been super stressed for months and it’s largely because of all of his pent up feelings. It all started when Sam’s wife’s ex-husband moved back to their small town.

Because her ex is respected and loved by family, friends and community members, Sam has been repeatedly told how great this man is and how he’s such a wonderful father and an all-around fabulous guy.

 Hearing these stories and high praise always caused Sam to feel inferior and slightly threatened by his wife’s ex, but the feelings were always manageable because he lived in a different country. But now that he has returned home, it’s become impossible to deny. Sam feels like a nobody compared to this local hero, and the jealousy is taking a toll on Sam’s health — and on his marriage, too.

 

What triggers your jealousy?

 

 The answer is different for everyone.

 

For some, like Sam, jealousy rears its head when an ex is somehow in the picture. Maybe your partner regularly communicates with or spends time with an ex because the two share parenting of a child, or maybe because they’ve managed to remain friends. Perhaps you have come into contact with your partner’s ex and this sparks a painful comparison game in your mind. Or maybe all you have to do is think about them and all that you imagine brings up worry and fear that you don’t measure up or that your partner will leave you for him or her.

 

Another jealousy trigger can come up in social situations. Especially if your partner is more extroverted than you are or if he or she is a flirt, this can bring up jealousy in an instant. Even if your partner only has eyes for you, the cruel comparison game that you play in your mind is a trigger that will ruin the fun of a party or night out with your beloved.

Read more about curing your jealousy at YourTango.com 

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