Dating is hard. Sober dating is harder.
Dating is tough, period. It’s awkward and scary and uncomfortable (did I mention AWKWARD?). Add the fact that I’m sober – in a world where almost everyone else takes the edge off with a glass of Vino – and you have the (non-alcoholic) recipe for dating disaster. Lest you think I’m exaggerating, let me elaborate…
1. IT’S DIFFICULT TO FIND SOBER PEOPLE TO DATE
As a non-drinker, I’m not opposed to dating people who like the occasional libation. But truthfully, if I could actually find another non-drinker to date, I’m pretty sure that I wouldn’t be here right now writing this post.
2. MOST FIRST DATES INVOLVE (YOU GUESSED IT!) DRINKING
This is particularly upsetting when I’ve already been messaging with someone promising and he decides to ask me out for drinks, proving he didn’t actually read my online profile. So, uh, how about…coffee? Tea? A walk in the park?
3. YOUR DATE IS FASCINATED THAT YOU DON’T DRINK – AND WON’T SHUT UP ABOUT IT
The “why” here doesn’t matter. I might be sober because I’m allergic, don’t like the taste, have religious objections, am in AA, or just don’t want to waste the calories. Whatever the reason, people who *do* drink CANNOT let it go. There are always a million questions, and once I answer them all, they launch into all the reasons I should start drinking. DID I STUTTER WHEN I SAID I DO NOT DRINK, SIR?
4. THAT MOMENT WHEN YOUR DATE REACHES THE THRESHOLD WHERE HE THINKS HE’S MORE INTERESTING THAN HE ACTUALLY IS
We all know that special, endearing moment when an over-served person begins to think everything they say is absolutely mind-blowing (when, in fact, it’s actually getting less coherent by the sip). Drunk tirades are annoying when your friends do it, but it’s 100 times worse (and far more embarrassing) when a stranger you’ve just met starts waxing poetic about the crush they have on their 7th grade English teacher.
Read more about the struggle of sober dating on YourTango.