Incidents that Remind You, You’re a Black Woman
As proud as we are to be Black women, it doesn’t define every fiber of our being. While we are always aware of our heritage, culture, race or ethnicity there are moments when we are just…ourselves. We either feel closer to one of our many other roles (woman, wife, mother sister or friend) or we exist temporarily in the essence of our being, no labels. But sometimes when we step outside the comfort of our inner circle there are life happenings that will remind us with a halting quickness that we are, for better or worse, black.
1. None of your jeans fit your waist, butt and thighs appropriately all at the same time.
2. There are no flesh colored band aids that match your skin tone.
3. The beautician at the JCPenny’s salon looked absolutely terrified when you asked her to trim your ends.
4. Your classmates hung on your every word when you discussed “Beloved,” “Their Eyes Were Watching God” or “The Color Purple” in class.
5. You feel a deep sense of discomfort watching the local news in front of a multi-racial crowd of strangers.
6. You cringe at the N word being hollered on any type of public transportation.
7. You never cease to appreciate the sudden eruption of “OOooo-s” whenever Bell Biv Devoe’s “Poison” comes on in the club, as your people nearly trample you to get to the dance floor.
8. Your co-workers go out of their way to prove that they have “black friends.”
9. Your hair regimen determines whether or not you’ll arrive on time.
10. You’re surprised/offended when black artists and actors don’t thank God during their acceptance speeches.
What incidents remind you that you’re black?