How Is Floyd Mayweather Of All People Judging A Woman By Her Attire?
You know, I used to get mad whenever celebrities didn’t speak on topical, but very important issues.
But after witnessing quite a few celebrities kind of put their foot in their mouths with some less than thrilling commentary on a number of social issues, I think it is best that we sometimes allow them the option of just shutting the hell up! Most times really. For instance, boxing champion and expert lover of self, Floyd Mayweather, made some comments recently that he could have kept to himself.
In case you missed it, the five-division world champion fighter caused quite a stir earlier this month when he took to Instagram, and using that stupid chalkboard background, instructed the womenfolks of the world on how to dress for success. More specifically, he tweeted the following:
“How a female dresses is her advertisement. If a female shows half of her body, she’s asking to be disrespected. If she dresses classy, expect to be treated like a lady. How you’re addressed lies on your attire. Sexy is a spirit, not an outfit.”
And if there is anyone more qualified to talk about treating women with respect, it’s a man “caught” on camera dropping more than 100k on several exposed stripper booties at a strip club in Miami, right? And no offense to any of the women he dated, but they didn’t exactly dress like Dolores the librarian. In fact, I’m pretty certain that Mayweather probably pushed aside a few women named Dolores and a couple of librarians – with their shirts buttoned all the way up to the neck and rocking a dignified hemline – to get to some of the women he has been linked to. And I do recall one of the mothers of his children getting into a very public tiff with the boxer over their daughter wearing the same non-librarian and kinda s*xy look that Mayweather’s old flame Shantel Jackson wore to a match.
By his logic, I too can assume then that because Mayweather is always flashing his cash and parading around in opulence, he deserves to get robbed. Or should I assume that since he occasionally dresses like a thug rapper at times, he deserves to be profiled and harassed by the police, because you know, they too like to profile people? Please note that I do not believe those things at all. But can we as people just work on treating others with respect not based on attire, but because being a decent human being is a good thing?
And that brings me to my real question: Why do so many women believe this nonsense?
No, seriously, an inquiring mind really wants to know why the comment threads on sites, which are running this story, are mostly filled with other women (supposedly… because you really never know who is actually lurking behind most of these avatars) co-signing these silly theories about a woman’s dress and respectability as if it was true and right? I mean, we do know it’s not true, right?
I don’t know about the rest of you, but I’ve been street harassed in various outfits – from sweatpants, to a T-shirt, to a headscarf (that’s right) and to my more figure-flattering apparel. It really doesn’t matter. Nor does it matter when many of us find ourselves in a conversational space dominated by men (for the sake of argument, let’s say it’s at work), and despite being in your most professional attire, you have your opinions and suggestions either ignored or disregarded (and let’s not forget the also very real possibility of sexual harassment at work despite what you wear). And then there is sexual assault and abuse, which we know happens to all sorts of women, regardless of style of dress.
Likewise, those dudes didn’t care that when I wrote that essay on Dr. Umar Johnson’s sexist and homophobic rhetoric, I had on a nice, modest full-length caftan and that my hair was wrapped up in yet another scarf. They still filled my mentions on various social media sites with disrespectful and vile words like “Negro bed wench” and the old standby and quite unoriginal word, “b***h.” Many of us should understand by now that regardless of how you carry yourself or deliver your messages, some men really just feel entitled to say and do what they want to women. And I think that that Mayweather’s archaic line of thinking fits into that category.
I truly believe that as women, we do ourselves a huge disservice when we hold each other to standards based around how men feel and react. Not to mention all of the voluptuously dressed women walking around with men, who actually respect them and treat them with such respect, on their arms. Meagan Good is a prime example of that. And you can’t get anymore “respectable” than being the “First Lady” of a church.
Note: There was an error in the original quote posted. Mayweather didn’t say “deserve,” but rather, “asking to be disrespected.” The change has been made. Apologies for the confusion.