“I’m His Ride-Or-Die”: Meagan Good On Being A Submissive Wife, And Why She Was Once Afraid Of Marriage
Looking at Meagan Good and her husband, Devon Franklin, a happy, supportive and loving couple, it’s hard to believe that Good once felt that marriage wasn’t for her. According to Good, while speaking with Shamara and Laiya of Philly’s Hot 107.9, she said that the idea of submission in a relationship was NOT for her, because she was more focused on being free and i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t (do you know what that means?). But she says that once she met the man she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with, submission took on a whole different definition for her than what many people assume it means. This is what she said when she was asked whether or not she really wanted to have sex with the same man for the rest of her life:
“Listen, it’s so interesting. I was really always afraid of marriage; I was like, ‘I don’t know if I can do this.’ I’m such a free-spirited person. The whole idea of submitting just freaked me out. Then, when I met the right person, where submitting meant something totally different than what I thought it meant–it meant that I was his partner, that I was his backbone, that he actually cares about my opinion and that he actually seeks my advice–it just changed my whole entire perception of it. He really is my partner in purpose. He really is like my ride-or-die and I’m his ride-or-die. Anyway, I really like him a lot. A lot of people love the person they’re with. I really like him a lot and love him. So yes, I will have sex with him for the rest of our lives.”
Early in the interview, Good also touched on the constant criticism she gets about how she dresses as a woman married to a minister (Franklin is a Seventh-day Adventist pastor). She says at this point, she just keeps her eyes on God and on connecting with young people who want to strengthen their relationship with God, rather than worrying about what judgmental folks have to say:
“At the end of the day, you gotta keep your eyes on God and you gotta do what’s in your heart and what you believe is the right thing. Being authentic is the right thing. I’m called to a certain generation and a certain kind of people and women. A lot of those people won’t set foot in a church just because of the judgment and because they don’t feel like they fit in and because they don’t feel like they’re good enough. Those are the people I directly connect with because that has always been my experience.
It’s really about building the kingdom and everybody has their own job…We just gotta do what God called us to do.”
I love her energy, and I think she really broke it all the way down with her own definition of submission, because many of us unmarried folks immediately turn our nose up at the concept, thinking it means a woman is behind, rather than beside her husband. When you find the right one, I guess it all makes sense, right? Check out her full interview below and share your thoughts.
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