Monifah Opens Up About Adding To Her Family & Accepting That Her Daughter Wouldn’t Be Present At Her Wedding
Reality TV shows generally clog up television airwaves with loads of fabricated drama, outrageous storylines and disturbing love triangles. However, every once in a while, out of the rubble of these sensationalized plots, shines through something that reminds us that there are, in fact, very real aspects of reality television. In the case of TV One’s “R&B Divas: Atlanta,” it happens to be the love shared between Monifah Carter and now-wife, Terez. We were recently able to catch up with the newly married reality star following one of her morning workouts and she gave us the details on her Hawaiian wedding ceremony, her fabulous wedding dress and baby plans.
MN: First, I just want to start by saying congratulations! We were very happy to hear about the wonderful news!
Monifah: Thank you! Yes, it was a very exciting day. It’s a really great time for me in my life right now. I’m really blessed.
MN: I realize that you and your daughter haven’t always seen eye to eye when it comes to your relationship and sexuality. Did she participate at all in your wedding ceremony?
Monifah: No, she didn’t. She did not share in the moment. That was her truth and I respected it.
MN: With that in mind, what advice would you offer to those with family members who don’t support their relationship?
Monifah: You have to live your life for you. You demand respect in that area of your life because that is your life to live. I think acceptance of people’s decisions and beliefs and choices in those things is very key. You cannot change people. You have to keep it on you and do your best to be the example of what you’d like to see—in them or in the world period. That’s really how I’ve been living my life. It helps me make much better decisions because you know, you can’t change people. You’ll be disappointed the minute you try. That’s not even our place. I’ve learned that acceptance is key in most of those situations. You have to protect yourself and your spirit and you have to make tough decisions. It’s not always easy.
MN: Would you consider yourself gay or bisexual?
Monifah: I consider myself bisexual. Because we’re human, we have to put labels on everything. I’m a human being capable of loving anyone. In loving, it’s in the physical sense as well. I’m attracted to both men and women. I am in a monogamous, loving relationship with a woman. I’ve been in very good relationships with men. It just didn’t make it to where I made it with my wife. So yes, I would consider myself bisexual for the ‘labelers.’ Yes.
MN: Have you and Terez considered having or adopting children?
Monifah: Absolutely! I was thinking about the IVF thing. I would love to carry again. Terez has no interest in actually carrying. She doesn’t really have that interest—never did. I would love to carry our child. And I’m thinking, ‘Do I want to start all over?’ So we’re kind of weighing it out. We know that there are a lot of children out there that need love and loving homes, guidance and someone to take of them. You know, whatever God sees fit to have happen in our lives. If he wants us to be blessed and be a blessing in that way, it will happen. It will happen organically.
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