Relationship Debate: Should I Watch ‘Playboy’ to Get My Skills Up?

February 23, 2011  |  

Dear China,

I am eager to hear what you have to say, because I really want to ask you an honest question about sex. Here goes: should I watch pornos to get my skills up? I feel weird watching them.

Sincerely,
Curious Candy

Dear Curious Candy,

Sometimes, I wish I could talk to you ladies directly, so I could ask you questions like, what do you mean by “weird,” when you say you feel “weird” watching pornos? Do you mean you feel shy, you feel dirty, you feel like you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing, or you feel like you’re enjoying the movie or not enjoying the movie? Whatever you feel, you need to clarify it; pinpoint it. Sort out precisely what you mean by “weird,” so that you can uncover the answer to your personal philosophy about Adult Videos. If you enjoy standard, adult, consensual Adult Videos, then hey–you enjoy it, and there’s nothing weird about that fact, unless watching it compromises your ability to function in professional settings.

If you don’t enjoy it, then you don’t enjoy it, and you don’t have to watch it. Your question about whether you should watch Adult Videos in order to elevate your sexual skill set, forces me to clarify that there’s no obligation at any point in anyone’s life, to watch sexual entertainment. You either want to, or you don’t. It’s not a prerequisite for sexual skill or enjoyment.

That said, yes, watching Adult Videos could give you a few ideas about what to do in the bedroom, but it may give you a limited array of tips for your own personal body and your actual situation with real, live people. What you watch on T.V. may not translate to real life, so the best practice for healthy, beautiful sex is to have it regularly with someone to whom you can communicate your wants, needs and desires…someone who’s open to trying the exercises, feelings and vibrations you want to explore…and someone whose sexual appetite you want to fulfill as well.

Really, becoming a sex kitten takes self discovery and some really healthy, happy episodes with the right partner. Practicing sex (i.e. safe sex) enough times with the right person is the best way to get your skills up. If you want to watch Adult Videos in addition, that’s entirely up to you!

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