I used to be so confused when I’d hear women say they didn’t want to date a momma’s boy. I remember thinking, I thought men who loved their mothers were to be commended? But there’s a difference between loving your mother and choosing to swing from the umbilical cord. And if we learned anything from this past season of RHOA, it was that boys aren’t the only ones who suffer from this disease. Kandi is so indebted to her mom, she almost allowed her to thwart her happiness with Todd.
We all saw that it was pretty bad; so much so that Kandi said if the roles were reversed, she doesn’t know if she would have handled it with as much grace as Todd did…or at all, for that matter.
In an interview with Russ Parr, a listener asked Kandi how she would have reacted if Todd’s mother treated her the way Mama Joyce treated Todd. Here’s what she had to say:
“Of course I would have been upset. I would never disrespect anybody’s mom. I wouldn’t do that but I don’t know if I would have been able to handle it as well as he has. I probably would have been like, ‘Man, I ain’t got time for this’ so I had to commend him for being so patient.”
Shoot, we commend Todd for being patient too and we don’t even know him. (Though judging by the tone in Kandi’s voice and the chuckle afterward, she might have commended him in a way only a wife can…or I might have read too much into it.)
Anyway, I thought that question brought up a good point to ponder. If you were dealing with a man who you loved as much as Kandi seems to love Todd, would you be able to put up with a Mama Joyce type character? Would you or could you marry a man with a mother like Mama Joyce? And if so, what type of action would you require that he take to make your life a bit less stressful?
You can listen to this portion of Kandi’s interview in the video below.
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