Dear Dr. Sherry,
I started fooling around with a good friend of mine strictly with the intention of us just being friends with benefits. Seven years have passed by and now I’ve fallen in love with him. When he and I first got involved, I knew that he was not the emotionally expressive type and that was fine because I only wanted sex. Now that I have feelings for him, he’s still the same non-expressive, unaffectionate guy. He says he cares deeply for me and that he’s just always had issues with his feelings. I feel like he just says that he cares because he doesn’t want me to move on. We don’t even go on dates, and yet every weekend he’s partying with his friends. In the beginning I was the same way, but as the feelings grew deeper I’ve lost the desire to be in the club. I’m starting to feel like I’ve wasted these years with him, and that I am nothing more than a booty call even though he insists that he has real feelings for me. What do you think?
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