Is It Wise To Listen To What Your New Man’s Ex Has To Say About Him?
Last week, media outlets were buzzing with rumors about what’s believed to be Hollywood’s latest odd couple, rapper French Montana and Khloe Kardashian. The duo were spotted out and about on several occasions, and it appears that they’re an item. There’s just one problem: Montana is still legally married to his estranged wife, Deen Kharbouch. Surprisingly, Kharbouch spoke out about the rumored couple in a telling new interview with Life & Style. In the interview, Kharbouch all but warned the rapper’s new love interest to run for the hills because she’s more than likely being set up to become Montana’s next victim.
“She has to be careful,” Deen warned. “Things are not what they seem.”
According to Kharbouch, Montana (born Karim Kharbouch) pretty much abandoned her and their 4-year-old son, Kruz, once he became famous.
“He and I worked together to put him where he is,” she explained. “As soon as he popped, it was as if Kruz and I didn’t exist. He practically abandoned us.”
“Sometimes we won’t hear from him for two or three months,” she added.
Montana, however, recounts the demise of their relationship a bit differently.
“Man, I couldn’t do it; that’s why we got separated,” Montana told TheBoomBox in 2012. “At first it was smooth, but then as much as people think that money changes you, it’s changing them around you. A person ain’t gonna treat you the same now that they think that you think you somebody. You around so many beautiful women, that’s a conflict too. It’s just about finding somebody that understand the game, what you’re into. You can’t expect to make all this money and not go through problems. You can’t expect God to give you everything you want without taking something away.”
Of course, there are three sides to every story and we’ll never truly know what went wrong between Montana and Kharbouch. However, after reading Kharbouch’s comments, I started wondering whether or not Kardashian would take heed to or even consider the estranged wife’s words. On one hand, the possibility that her perception of him is stained with bitterness and resentment is great. On the other hand, this is coming from a woman who has been married to this man for years and probably knows him extremely well. And then of course, there’s the possibility that these two people simply were not meant to be together.
Kharbouch’s interesting revelation and direct words of warning made me reflect on the current situation of a friend who is in the process of breaking things off with her boyfriend after being contacted by two of his ex-wives. Not only did this man’s ex-wives contact my friend, but also her parents. Similar to Kharbouch, these women insisted that my friend reconsider her relationship with the guy because she’s more than likely being deceived. However, unlike Kharbouch, the women didn’t offer any particular reasons why they felt that way.
Receiving warning from anyone about a new guy you’re investing your time in or considering giving your heart to can be extremely startling—especially when it’s coming from his ex. But in the case of my friend for example, you also have to take into consideration the motive and the messenger. Is she still in love with him? Is she bitter or angry over how things ended and in pursuit of revenge? Or is she simply one woman looking to save another from unnecessary heartache? The unfortunate part is that many times you’ll never truly know until you give the relationship a chance. But in my opinion, if his ex comes knocking, you’d be crazy to not at least hear her out—even if you decide not to act on it.
What about you? Do you think it’s wise to at least listen to what your new guy’s ex has to say about him?