Dating Truths No One Likes To Talk About

April 18, 2014  |  
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Dating is one of those things that most people have a love/hate relationship with. While it can be fun to meet new people and go out on exciting dates with attractive men, dating isn’t all unicorns and sprinkles. Here are 14 dating truths that no one likes to talk about.

It requires effort…a lot of effort

Dating doesn’t happen miraculously, and if you expect it to, you’re in for a rude awakening. No matter how good looking you are or how amazing your personality is, dating requires time and effort on your part, or else you’ll never meet new people who you can potentially date. Waiting for men to come to you is a horrible dating plan.

You’ll come across flakes

This has become much more common with the popularity of online datng, but during your dating experience, you are more than likely going to come across men who will be flakes. They’ll sweet talk you, set up a date with you, and then they’ll never show, and in the end you’ll end up frustrated. Flakes are part of the dating scene, but it’s a dating truth no one really wants to mention.

It’s complicated. Literally.

Some women get this idea in their heads that dating is easy and that there will be a constant flow of men who they are interested in and vice versa Sadly, this is never how dating goes. Some weeks you’ll be irresistible; others, every man in sight seems to be unavailable.

You will get hurt

No one wants to go into the dating scene with the idea that they’ll have their feelings hurt, but it’s inevitable. Surely at some point you’ll meet a man, hit it off with him, and in the end, things just won’t work out for one reason or another. But trust us, life does go on.

Dating isn’t linear

If you were to take your dating patterns and map them, rarely would you come out with a straight line. The fact is that dating isn’t linear. You may find that one week you have five dates lined up and then the next two weeks you have no dates at all. Take dating a day at a time and don’t think that each day or week will be like the other.

You’ll go on bad dates

While it’s not a good thought to think about, it’s wise to know that you are bound to go out on bad dates. Though you’ll have plenty of good dates, there are going to be bad ones thrown into the mix. Prepare yourself for boring dates, awkward dates, and just outright horrible dates that you can’t wait to end.

Dating won’t fix your insecurities

Attention from men may be a confidence booster, but dating can also tear down your confidence when you’re not getting that same attention. That’s why your confidence can’t rest on how many men you’re going out with. it has to come from inside and you have to know you’re fly regardless.

You don’t have to rush

Though it’s nice to see fast-budding romances in the movies, dating is very rarely anything like that. It’s not the end of the world if a man doesn’t respond to your text within five minutes, and life isn’t going to end just because he had to cancel a date. Dating should be slow and steady.

You’re not in control

Yes, you can do things to increase your chances of success, but ultimately you can’t make a man like, love, or want you. Be yourself. The rest is out of your hands.

The opposite sex really isn’t that complicated

We like to say that men are from Mars and that women are from Venus, which explains why we think that the opposite sex is really complicated, but it’s really not that deep. Yes, we’re different but some truths remain the same: neither sex wants to be lied to, cheated on, strung along, abused, or mistreated. Everyone should have those basics down.

Being nice isn’t the end all be all

When you’re part of the dating scene, it definitely helps if you’re a kindhearted, open, and social person who is approachable. However, being nice isn’t going to guarantee you success in the dating world. It’s all about the effort you put in beyond that first smile.

Looks don’t mean everything

How many times have you came across a really attractive man who turned out to be a complete jerks? The same goes for women. No matter if you’re drop dead gorgeous, if your personality is horrible or if you’ve got some other major flaw, dating isn’t going to work out for you. Good looks will only get you so far, so you can’t rely on them to find you the perfect man.

You can’t make someone interested in you

We’ve seen it in the movies and read it in books, where a man seemingly uninterested in a woman is transformed and magically falls in love with her. Though it’s nice to think that this can happen, chances are that it won’t. If a man isn’t into you, don’t take it to heart and don’t let it drag you down, but at the same time, don’t make it a personal mission to make this guy want you. It’s not fair to yourself and in the end you’ll end up with one big upset.

Dating can’t fix the past

Bad relationships happen, and with them comes a lot of baggage. If your ex cheated on you, it’s up to you to come to terms with it. If you decide to start dating as a way to possibly fix what wrongs your ex did to you, you’re facing a huge let down. Having baggage is okay, but don’t expect a man you’re on a date with to want to unpack it all for you.

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