14 Habits To Help You Let Go And Move On

October 15, 2014  |  
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Life can be tricky sometimes.  Sometimes you want to progress, but you find yourself stuck in rut.  You don’t know what’s wrong, or why you can’t move forward, but it’s not happening in the way that you want it to.  Well, here are 14 things that could be hindering your progress.


Worrying too Much

When you worry your mind can become overly preoccupied with what’s wrong.  When you’re doing that in abundance, instead of working toward your goal, you’re not really moving anywhere.

Not Worrying at All

On the other end of the spectrum you could not worry about anything.  This can be a good thing, but if you’re attitude is too carefree then there’s no need for growth, improvement, or progression.  Therefore you won’t grow, improve, or progress.

Living in the past

The past can be a good indicator on what your strengths and weaknesses are, but if you’re too preoccupied with the past then you’re neglecting your present, and your potential for growth.

Living too in the Future

Lao-Tzu, an ancient Chinese philosopher who is credited with creating Taoism  once said:  “If you are depressed, you are living in the past.  If you are anxious, you are living in the future.  If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”

Spending too much time focused on the future can make you extremely anxious, and that worry can cause you to freeze.

Comparing Yourself to Others

Competition can be a great thing to help motivate you, but if you’re spending too much time comparing yourself to other people it can make you feel as though you’re less.  Remember that at the end of the day, you’re your own competition.

Having Tunnel Vision

If you think that there’s only one way toward the success that you’re seeking, then you could be limiting yourself.  Success is rarely a point A to point B scenario.  Many successful people have gone through multiple avenues to get to where they are now, so let go of just thinking that there’s only one way.

Listening to Toxic People

Asking friends, associates, people who you ride public transportation what their opinions are about what you should do can sometimes backfire on you, especially if they’re toxic.

I don’t think that all toxic people want to break you down.  I just think that some are just so jaded from life that they can’t comprehend good things happening, so the feel as though they are warning you, not draining you, which is what they are doing.

Being Toxic to Yourself

The worst type of toxicity is the kind that you inflict upon yourself.  If you’re too busy breaking yourself down instead of building yourself up, you can’t move toward anything.

Waiting to be Discovered

You’re great.  You know it, your friends know, your family knows it.  The problem is, no one else does.  So if you’re trying to move forward as the next great cook, and the only people who know your culinary skills are your family, then you’re enabling yourself to stay in the same place.  Be open to putting yourself out there.  Yeah, it’s extremely scary, but it’s a step in a good direction.


I recently re-discovered this quote, and I remember how much I loved it.  Please forgive me for being crass:  “Procrastination is like masturbation.  You’re only screwing yourself.”

You can’t move on if you’re putting it off for later.

Overloading yourself

Burnout is a mother, and if you’re overloading yourself with not a lot of breaks it can lead you to it.  Try to make it a point to relax and spend some time with yourself, friends, or just away from work to recharge.

Your “Looking Glass” is Distorted

Charles Horton Cooley created the theory of “The Looking Glass Self,” which expresses that people shape their behavior and self-understanding on how others see them.  If you’re coming from a bad point of your life (either relationship, work experience, or others) and you were torn down in the process, you can begin to think and see yourself as broken and act accordingly.

Remind yourself of your strengths and good traits, and work to improve on your less than desirable ones.

Living in Fear

One of the most paralyzing things is fear.  When you’re too busy living in fear you’re not moving at all.  Progress is scary and can make you want to stay where you are.  But if you’re unhappy in the position that you’re playing, then you wouldn’t desire moving at all.  Allow your desire to move forward to bypass your fear.

Taking the Wrong Risks

Going after a goal can be a risk.  Making yourself more visual can be a risk.  Getting business cards before you’re actually employed can be a risk.  However, those can lead to something better.

If the risks that you’re taking don’t outweigh the potential consequences that’s when there might be a problem.  If you want to be a singer, trying out for a show like “American Idol,” “The Voice,” or “X-Factor” might be a good thing.  Trying out for “Bad Girls Club” might not be so hot.

Taking risks can be exactly what helps to get you moving in the right direction, but make sure that risk is going to pay off in the long run.

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