Why Date Night and Business Go Hand-In-Hand
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Show of hands: how many fellow mommy entrepreneurs are guilty of neglecting their romantic life? It’s something that we certainly don’t mean to do but when you factor in trying to grow a business and the never-ending tasks of motherhood, it kinda gets tossed by the wayside. It wasn’t until I caught an episode about date night on Mommy-in-Chief with Laila Ali that I realized, “Shoot, when’s the last time I had one with my husband?”
Dating can actually help your business in many ways. Sure there’s no hardcore scientific evidence but let’s look at the facts here. When you focus the majority of your efforts on your business you can experience everything from burnout to tunnel vision. This is why things like vacations and personal days were created. Your brain needs to rest, your senses need some relaxation, and your romantic life needs some attention. You have to dust off those heels and go out on a date night with a special (or potentially special) someone. Or even your gal pals for a ladies date night.
It all comes down to having balance in your life. “Business owner” isn’t your only title. Too much work and no play could yield success in the future with no one to share it with. Just as we want to build a lasting brand with our company we need to do the same in our personal lives.
All this talk about date night made me think about my life and areas I need to fix. I am an entrepreneur, a wife (happily married for a couple years) and proud mama of a two-month-old. It’s pretty obvious that my time is spread thin with daily responsibilities, but I’m trying not to make too many excuses for not spending alone time with my guy. Even if we aren’t able to hit the town at night because we’re a party of three, we make due by penciling in daytime dates to grab lunch. Our Friday “date nights” consist of ordering in food, having a glass of wine and catching up on the DVR once the baby goes down. I must say this has been our saving grace because we get to stay up a little longer (or until the baby wakes) without worrying about work demands of the next day.
Has the presence of date nights in my life made new business fall out of the sky? No. I honestly never expected for it to and if it did I would bottle up that miracle and sell it to the masses. What date nights have done is give me a freshness of mind and self-discipline to put down my laptop in the evenings to concentrate on things other than my business. At least for me it has done wonders in the productivity department as I feel less wired and more focused on what I need to do. It’s funny to look back on those evenings and late nights when I called myself working when in actuality, I was on a mouse wheel going through the motions of work with a tired mind and body.
And can we talk about the physical aspects of what can come after a wonderful date? Hello, talk about stress reliever people! There’s a reason why so many successful people give so much credit to physical activities. It’s a great way to release endorphins, our bodies’ natural stress reliever.
When’s the last time you had a date night? How has it affected your business?