Act Like A Child To Win In Your Relationship

March 25, 2014  |  


From YourTango 

Children are smarter than adults, because I’ve never seen a child with a full-time job or a broken heart. They have life figured out. Ever seen a 7-year- old complain about being single? “Mommy, nobody will go to Chuckie Cheese with me!” No, you haven’t. Give them a piece of candy and a puppy, and they will be happy all day finding joy in what they have, not what they lack.

As grown-ups, we focus on what someone used to be instead of understanding the strengths they offer us now. We say, “I don’t want someone who’s been married.” Well, maybe a divorce taught that person valuable lessons they carry into new (better) relationships; they are a better person and partner because of that “failed” relationship.

Just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean it’s a failure. It can be a success if each person takes the lessons learned into future relations. Each “failed relationship” gets us close to our last (and hopefully best) relationship in life. Often times a person can only appreciate the view of the mountaintop because the divorce was their valley. Another person’s journey is not ours to judge.

Kids do not care about each other’s past. Ever seen a 3-year-old approach another 3-year-old in the sandbox and say, “Tell me what it was like when you were a baby? I can only be friends with 3-year-olds who were breast fed and wore Huggies. If you wore Pampers, I’m afraid we can’t be toddlers in crime. I’m sorry.” This would never happen because kids focus on what exists, the current moment, and not what doesn’t exist…a person’s past.

Sometimes we end relationships before they even begin because of what we think we want in a person. Instead of showing up with a script of what we want, why not be present and see what manifests. For instance, you may want a partner who is close to their family. But you want that because you are close to your family. Maybe a person is amazing because they never had family and learned how to be strong on their own.

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