Tatyana Ali Opens Up About Failed Relationship: ‘It Wasn’t Really Love’
Tatyana Ali ended her relationship over a year ago. They say hindsight is 20/20, and looking back, the 35-year-old “November Rule” actress says that what she shared with her former beau wasn’t real love.
“My last relationship was probably over a year ago,” she told Necole Bitchie. “Like ‘relationship, relationship,’ and there are definitely songs inspired by that.”
“Almost Love’ (from my album) is about that,” she continued. “You go through it. It hurts but it just means it wasn’t right. It wasn’t really love. It took me a while to get to that point… Real love isn’t that. It can’t be! [laughs]”
For her next relationship, Tatyana says she learned that love requires courage and that real love can’t really exist in the absence of courage.
“My last relationship was probably the first one that I probably felt some type of kinship with someone. And so, it’s not so much lessons learned as it is love [taking] courage. I can’t be with someone who is not courageous. Love means you can’t live in fear and have love at the same time. Not the kind of love that I’m looking for. And that’s what I learned from that.”
As for what she’s looking for in a potential partner:
“My friends always say I don’t have a type. They are always trying to figure out my type. I like guys who are super smart. I like guys who are witty because I think I’m witty. I like people who are kind. There has to be something in their eyes that is kind. I very much live my life to my own drummer. I dance to my own drum beat. So I need somebody who either does that themselves or to understand it [with] me.”
Tatyana also took advantage of the opportunity to clear up some previous comments about not wanting to date a man who is struggling.
“[On The Breakfast Club Morning Show] they asked me if I would date a struggling actor. Or somebody struggling. That’s totally different. [I said ‘No’ but] I thought a lot about my answer after I left because I’m not a materialistic person at all. Like, I’m really not, you know what I mean? When I say, “You have to be successful already,’ it’s not in terms of ‘money.’ It means in terms of ‘your purpose.’ You have to have come into your purpose already because I’m already in mine. So I don’t see myself being with somebody who’s still searching. To me, that’s struggling.”
Read Tatyana’s full interview here.