Teddy’s Not The Only One To Blame: Tina Takes Responsibility For Her Role In Relationship Breakdown

March 11, 2014  |  

Tina has been very open about her relationship issues, specifically her husband, Teddy’s infidelity. And while she spoke to us exclusively about how she was able to make it through that dark period in her life, she’s never spoken about the mistakes she’s made throughout the course of their relationship.

That was until she spoke to CNikky.com recently. In the interview, Tina acknowledged that while Teddy was the one who ultimately stepped out, she’d made mistakes of her own.

“I, Tina assume full responsibility for the issues that I contributed to the relationship.  I was controlling, talked too much.  And you can never be heard over me because when I wanna talk I got the floor and ain’t nobody gonna get it from me until I give it up.  Real talk. 

That was the way it was and I have to work on myself. You know what I mean?  I was selfish.  When we started having children it’s like, I forget that I have a responsibility as a wife.  And I’m questioning you like, ‘Really, what you want me to do?  I gotta baby!’  Even though that’s sometimes what you’re faced with, that ain’t the right spirit to do it in. And what happens is, you’re going on and you’re busy and you’ve got children and you’ve got work.  And what happens is your husband is last and you don’t realize that he’s last.  And if he has a problem with being last you’re like,’Well, what am I supposed to do?  You know that I’ve got a career?  You know that I’ve got these babies, you’re the one that got me pregnant!’ 

You want your husband to be the man and to take his place, but because ‘I’m a strong woman, I’m a this woman and I’m a that woman’ we busy stepping on our man.  Making him feel small.  And you know what?  I did that.  And I take responsibility for that.”

Then she explained why Teddy, her husband, cheated.

“I know that I look good.  I know that I’m sexy.  I know that there’s not a problem when the doors are closed.  I know that I contribute well to my household as a woman and all of that.  And that’s not fronting and that’s not lying.  I know that.  But, when there is a lack of intimacy and there’s distance, how beautiful you are, how much you bring it and how sexy you…that does not matter!  Because you want to feel valued and when you don’t feel valued, sometimes you make the choices to go somewhere else where somebody’s paying a lot more attention and that’s what happened.”

I know there are several other outlets reporting this story as if Tina was saying she was taking responsibility for Teddy cheating. But that’s just not the case. She’s simply saying she wasn’t perfect in the relationship and she knows why her husband ultimately decided to cheat.

But what do you think about Tina’s comments?

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