I always find it very interesting about the things that I remember. I remember every lyric to that AMAZING Jack in the Box commercial with the Meaty Cheesy Boys (it used to be my ringtone, thank you). I remember every word of the Preamble, and I remember the very first argument that me and my best guy friend in elementary school had. Both of us were Tupac fans (though both of our parents did their best to keep a close eye on whatever we mentally digested, in the school’s halls we could be more free with our interests) and we were discussing Tupac’s theory on women, versus *female dogs.
If you can’t watch the above embedded video, it is an audio snippet of an interview that Tupac Shakur did with Angie Martinez. In the video he discusses his love for women, but his hatred for *female dogs. Now, I always understood his vitriol description, due to the claims that he raped a woman that he vehemently denied. So I always gave him the pass that he was very angry about the alleged false accusation. He addresses that situation, and says that’s what he bases the comparison off of. However, it was frustrating to me when the boys in my class were quoting that segment to every girl that they could.
My friend couldn’t understand why I was so offended by it, because, as I’ve been told multiple times, “but you don’t fall under the b—– category, so why are you mad?!” As I got older, I would find myself rolling my eyes whenever a guy would quote that segment as if that was their declaration of how everyone should see women, and why respect should only be given to women. “Eff B’s.”
It wasn’t until the clip came back into rotation recently that it finally set in why I was always so annoyed by it.
Hypocrisy has always been something that bothered me, and seeing a man (or woman) treat one person well, and then another person as if they were dirt was wrong to me. I typically saw this from men. If there was a woman that seemed to fall into that b—– category, then some men would just talk horribly to the woman. They might embarrass her, use her low self-esteem to their benefit, and then gloat about the fact that “that’s how you treat b—-es.” I even watched in disgust as an ex gleefully retold a story about a woman who got into an argument with her boyfriend outside of a club and when he got tired of her yelling at him and he punched her in the face. (Needless to say, our relationship didn’t last long). But the answer was always the same, “she shouldn’t have been a b—-. But you’re not, so why are you worried about it?!”
The issue is, no matter what a person portrays themselves to be, isn’t it the fact that they are a living, breathing human enough to warrant them respect? I just don’t agree with the idea of qualifying how much respect a woman gets by if she falls under one category or another. It’s not right. Especially on the front that if you treat a man disrespectfully, and he has proven that he’s not a upstanding citizen, because he’s a man he’s earned his respect?
Well, the same thing for women. Regardless of whether you feel as if a woman fall under the b—- category, or if you see her as a lady, it doesn’t take away from the fact that she is a living person who deserves to be treated as such. No one should be able to dictate to you whether you deserve to be called out of your name or not, or how you deserve to be treated.
But hey, what does this woman know?