There’s tons of advice out there about how to attract a man, how to date and how to maintain a successful relationship. But rarely do people offer advice on how to break up, if and when that time comes. During the second installment of Necole Bitchie’s “Girl Talk” chats, singer Melanie Fiona advised against being the wild and deranged woman who wants to destroy everything in her path following a breakup.
“Ladies, I know it’s so easy to fly off the handle and throw stuff outside, and burn stuff, but there is nothing good that comes from that,” she explained. “No matter how much you think he is the worst person in the world. There is nothing worse than for him to see than you strong, walking out, being like ‘You’re going to miss me when I’m gone.’ Not the “Oh my God, she was crazy. She burned all my sh**. She cut up all my stuff.’ ‘Yea, that’s why you can’t be with that chick, she’s crazy.’ That’s what dudes say!
The “It Kills Me” singer added that remaining calm is generally the best way to approach the situation.
“What I’ve learned is that there is so much strength and power in being calm and saying what you gotta say because you’ve done the work to know what is for you and what’s not for you.”
The 30-year-old Toronto native also advised against settling for less just for the sake of being in a relationship.
“I was with someone that wasn’t supporting my growth and it’s a question that you have to ask the partner you are with; ‘Do you love me for the girl that I am or do you love me for the woman I will become.’ And so, the truth of the matter is, you have to figure out who that woman is. And hopefully if you are with someone, they can love you through those things.”
Though her family continues to pressure her about marriage by reminding her that she isn’t getting any younger, Melanie says that she will not settle for anything less than what she feels she deserves.
“I talk to my mom and of course West Indian parents say, ‘You getting married? Are you getting married today! You are getting older!’ I had to remind my mom, ‘Mom, I’m not going to settle for less than I deserve.’ I’m comfortable and I’ve done the work to know that I’d rather be by myself than to be with the wrong person. And that’s okay. I want extreme love and I believe it can happen and I believe it’s for me.”
Read Mealnie’s full interview here.