In a Bravo blog posted yesterday, Cynthia Bailey spoke her peace on all the drama from Sunday night’s episode. She said that that she agreed with NeNe on the fact that Kenya should have done a better job communicating with her about the charity ball, especially since it was going to be in her honor. However, Cynthia said that NeNe’s behavior was poor, considering that in the end, the event was for charity. She also touched on what she thought about Peter checking NeNe’s behavior, and why she didn’t see anything wrong with it.
I agree with NeNe that Kenya should have picked up the phone and personally invited her, especially since it was in her honor. Even if Kenya did send the evite, I think the personal touch would have gone a long way under the circumstances. As a courtesy, NeNe also should have been told that she would be asked to say a few words on behalf of the charity. I believe that Kenya had good intentions when she put together this ball for NeNe, but she could have handled some of the details a lot better.
However, I also think that the way NeNe dealt with the situation once she got to the event could have been handled better as well. So in my opinion, they both were wrong in their own way. We all know two wrongs never make a right! My suggestion to NeNe was to just be the bigger person and graciously go to the event. Especially since it was for charity! A proper invitation (or not) was besides the point, because now her name was already attached to it. My interest as her friend first and foremost was to make sure that she came off as a class act. She could always get Kenya together later over cocktails about the technicalities. I stalked her all day long and begged her to take the high road and go to the event. I just kept thinking about how bad she was going look if she didn’t show up.
Well, things don’t always work out the way you want them to. The good news is that after calling NeNe about 855 times, she took my advice and did show up. The bad news is that she was “hotter than fish grease” (southern belle way of saying she was not a happy camper) when she got there! I knew immediately that I had made a big mistake, because she made it very clear that she didn’t want to be there, charity or not. NeNe is my girl and I will support her on just about anything as long as it is the right thing. I do not agree with how NeNe approached the situation, and I can see how her actions came off as kind of mean spirited. However, I am not NeNe, I am Cynthia. We are all grown and we make our own choices. Last time I checked, no one has crowned me Mother Superior, so who am I to judge?
So, now we are in the driveway waiting for our cars, and NeNe overhears Peter telling me why he wanted to leave. NeNe walks over to confront him. I felt Peter’s tone was appropriate, and he was not being disrespectful to her in their conversation. I also thought that what Peter was trying to tell NeNe was coming from a place of love and support. Peter completely understood NeNe’s point of view, but felt like the charity was the focus. In my opinion, friends who care about each other should always be able to tell each other when they are right and when they are wrong.
As the conversation escalated, Peter ended up dropping the F word, and NeNe later goes on to call him bitch a**ness. I agreed with what Peter was trying to tell NeNe, and knew in my heart that it should have been me having that conversation with her instead of him. I just didn’t feel that it was the right time to talk to her, because she was so pissed off and we already had enough drama to deal with for one night.
At the end of the day, I really felt horrible because I was the one that convinced NeNe to come in the first place and didn’t want to be responsible for any more foolishness that night. My heart was in the right place, and what’s done is done. However, I have often wondered since that night if I had tried to talk NeNe and the words were coming out of my mouth and not Peter’s if she would have been more receptive. I say this because of the whole “a man shouldn’t step to a woman thing,” even if in this case the woman actually stepped to the man.
Last but not least, I thought it was very offensive for NeNe to say that none of the women at the event were on her level. Those words spoke volumes, and I kept wondering as her friend if I was included. I am hurt if this is how she feels, but if this is her truth, I have no choice but to accept it.
Very interesting. What do you think of what Cynthia had to say?