Ask A Very Smart Brotha: I Like Him But He’s Too Short…

Seana: I’ve been dating a guy for three months. He’s a gentleman, all around good guy, and he treats me like a lady. My issues with him are his height and his age. He’s 5’9″ (thats what he says but I don’t believe him after being around him) and I’m 5’6″. I’m 31 and he’s 43.

I like feeling small and protected in a physical sense by a man I’m dating and the age gap makes me feel like we’re not completely on the same page of life i.e.: I still want to go out and have ratchet times and he’s definitely more settled and calm lol! Most of all I don’t feel excited about him and am wondering if i were to be in a relationship with him would that be settling or would that be me accepting that he’s a man thats into me and I should be with him even if he’s not what I want?

DY: Sounds like you’re just not that into him. A great guy, but not the guy for you.