C. Nicole Mason, PhD Teaches You How To Be ‘Deliciously Selfish’ In Her Book ‘Me First’

February 11, 2014  |  

This little book packs a huge punch.

Me First: A Deliciously Selfish Take On Life by C. Nicole Mason, PhD. is chock-full of insightful lessons and exercises to get you living the life described in the title. This completely unapologetic, funny, and relatable book gives simple and clear tools, helping readers get to the top and learn to live on their own terms.

At its core, Me First teaches you to embrace the idea that you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. From the very beginning, readers are taught to embrace the Me First approach to living by using this basic standard: “Before making any decision, start with the most important question: What do I want? The second question you will ask is: How does this decision action or choice affect me directly? If it’s not what you want or does not benefit you directly, don’t do it.”

But don’t be fooled, this book is NOT about becoming too good for the little people. Me First is wholeheartedly about learning to take a step back from the craziness of life and figuring out who you are, what you want, and having the courage to own it. “If you want to be a stay-at-home mom, great. If you want to start your own business or to become an actor, do it. If you love being single and don’t want children or a husband, own it. It’s your life. Live deliciously and you’ll get whatever it is you want.”

Each of the books 15 chapters starts with a unique “Delish-ism,” letting you know what to expect as you go through the respective pages. Delish-isms such as: “I am about 50 percent perfect, but 100 percent real” and “If you can’t see it, you can’t have it” are just two examples of the sort of down-to-earth tidbits of wisdom you’ll delve into in greater detail as you go along.

Particularly great are the use of “Kick Starters” at the end of each chapter. These are three to four relevant exercises readers can do now to get started. These action steps, such as “Set Three Financial Goals” for the Finances chapter, elevate the book from “great in theory” to “great in your day-to-day life.”

Me First seamlessly moves readers from understanding what we want, to becoming aware of the little things that often hold us back. With this new-found knowledge, we are then encouraged to embrace and love ourselves, “flaws and all,” to finally taking action, making choices, and diving into “the hot s****y mess of change.”

The deceptively simple and hilariously clear way that Nicole Mason, PhD writes makes you feel that she is sitting next to you and has become your personal life-coach for however long it takes. Dr. Mason is a visiting professor at Spelman College and Executive Director of the Center for Research and Policy in the Public Interest. She has written hundreds of articles on women, leadership development and economic security. Her writing and commentary have been featured in Essence magazine, the Huffington Post, CNN, MSNBC, and NPR among other outlets. She is also the creator of Lead The Way, an innovative leadership development program funded by American Express Philanthropies and others.

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