What He Really Is Trying To Tell You: Learn To Read Your Man’s Body Language
If someone instructed you to, “Go over there and flirt with that guy,” you’d inherently know what to do. You’d communicate, through a series of body language signals both conscious and subconscious, that you’re interested and open to his advances. Cues, like a beaming smile, a casual hair flip, a coy lean forward when he speaks and an empathetic cocking of your head would send the crystal-clear message that you want him.
What you may not realize is that every other time you see each other, from the first date to thebreakup coffee (or the honeymoon, depending on how things go), you’ll be using these same nonverbal cues to continually communicate with each other—and with anyone else you date.
Learning to recognize a guy’s body language cues sooner rather than later can be one of the most important skills in your dating arsenal. On a good date, you’ll have surefire proof he’s into you, and on a less-than-great date, you’ll be saved from potential embarrassment (he’s clearly bored by your “that time I got drunk with my boss” story)—or even clued into the fact that he’s not worth a second drink (he barely makes eye contact, staring at everyone else in the room). Instinctively, you know that a guy’s facial expressions, gestures, and mannerisms are windows into his mind and emotional state. But deciphering all these cues can be daunting—or downright maddening. You’re already at a disadvantage. Studies have shown that you’re not as good at reading expressions as you think you are—not to mention that the culture you grew up in can influence the way you read expressions. Every person has his or her own set of body clues, and putting them together can be a lot like solving a jigsaw puzzle.
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