10 Steps To Finding The Love Of Your Life

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From YourTango 

Ancient Greek lore tells us that God had originally made humans as one part male, one part female. They had four arms, four legs, and one head with two faces. However, the Greek God Zeus, the Ruler of the Sky and Thunder found this being to be so powerfully intimidating that he split it into two separate humans, one male and one female. Each being is now forced to wander the earth searching for their other half to complete them– their soulmate. So, how do you find yours?

Step 1. Don’t let Zeus dictate your life.  Let go of thinking that there is one person out there for you.

When we think of soulmates, we often think of them in terms of “the one.”  But in reality, there are many people out there who you could fall madly and hopelessly in love with and who you can have an amazing life with. Rather than thinking of “the one,” put out there that you’re looking for the right person.

Step 2.  Make a List to Get Clear on What you Want— But Not too Clear

I had a girlfriend who, more than anything, just wanted to find a nice Jewish doctor, get married, and have a baby. She made it her mission to find someone like it was her parttime job. She went out on internet dates as often as she could, sometimes seeing three guys in one weekend. But after each date, she’d come up with an excuse as to why there was something wrong with the guy. “Oh he didn’t know who Lou Reed is. I could never marry a guy who doesn’t know who Lou Reed is…He wore Birkenstocks. I seriously could never commit to a man in Birkenstocks… He ordered a Cosmopolitan! Can you believe it? I can’t date a guy who doesn’t drink Scotch neat.” After a few years, she couldn’t get on the subway without seeing at least one of her dating casualties. And as the years went on, she began to see them with theirgirlfriends, then their wives, then their wives and kids. It was excruciating. The Birkenstock dude had exchanged his sandals for wingtips, the Lou Reed guy pulled his twins onto the G-train in a Radio Flyer wagon, and the Cosmo guy moved to Connecticut with his wife, baby, and Mastiff. She kept watching them drop off and she felt so left behind. Eventually, she did find love and at this time, I’m happy to report that she and her husband and their one and a half kids are living happily in Park Slope.  By the way, she married an Episcopalian photographer.

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