Year Of Change: Stop Expecting Different Results By Using The Same Negative Patterns

January 12, 2014  |  

From ESSENCE

In the New Year, I am challenging myself to recognize and deal with the negative patterns in my life. I’d like to invite you to do the same. Ask yourself:

1. What Keeps Repeating In My Life? We need start by identifying the patterns in our lives and relationships. Are we always the ones people turn to but don’t have anyone to call when we’re on the edge? Do we consistently find ourselves in dead-end jobs or relationships? Wherever we find deja-vu, it’s imperative that we dig in to learn the lesson. Take a moment to think about your 2013, what negative experiences did you find yourself repeating?

2.  What Change Do I Want to See? It’s not enough to know what we want to be changed from—what do we want to be changed into? Repeating patterns can be comfortable, but comfort doesn’t always result in our happiness or fulfillment. We can change our behaviors when we count the cost of actions that don’t benefit us. We must pay the price now for what we want in the future. A precise vision of the future will give us the strength to act at a higher level than we feel capable.

3. How Can I Get There? Disruption is necessary to change a pattern. We must purposely do things differently.

You can read the rest over on ESSENCE.com, including Coach Felicia’s affirmation. Have you noticed that you repeat the same behavior but look for a different outcome? Are you actively looking to change it?

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