MN Exclusive: Kim Fields Talks Having A Baby At 44, How She Avoided The Child Star Curse And A “Living Single” Reunion
It’s a busy day somewhere in Atlanta as Kim Fields balances interviews, diaper duty and her energetic 6-year-old son Sebastian. She could use some rest, and the former Living Single star makes this clear when I ask her what’s next for her: “It’s been a lot going on you know towards the end of the year with a newborn and a six and a half year old. So my immediate plan is to sit down somewhere.” And she has every right to. Fields, at the age 44, just gave birth to her second child on December 3, another boy she named Quincy. So you would think after our interview, Fields would want to go fall out on a bed. But no, she’s got interview after interview, promoting her upcoming Christmas webseries, Holiday Love: The Rebirth (premiering this Sunday, December 22 at 8 p.m./7 p.m. central on holidaylove.tv) starring everyone from Marvin Sapp to Tamela Mann and more. We caught up with one of our favorite funny laides to chat about her advice for women wanting to have kids later in life, how she avoided the child actor curse, a possible Living Single reunion and SO much more.
Baby Quincy, And How She’s Handling Motherhood A Second Time Around:
He’s such a little blessing. When I feel like, ‘I should have passed out a long time ago,’ I have to remember that we prayed for this. We asked for that restoration and refreshing on our bodies and our sprits and our minds and God said ‘Okay, here you go, I know you need it baby.’ But there were some things that took some, ‘Oh yeah I do remember how to do this!’ type of moments. Like changing a diaper and getting him in a car seat. You know, some of the utilitarian functions. It’s just like, all right, it’s been six years but I remember how to do this!
How She Stayed Positive While Trying To Have Another Baby After Two Miscarriages:
I wasn’t in a space of questioning ‘Is it going to happen? Is it not going to happen?’ We didn’t put any pressure on ourselves or God. We didn’t give up. It was one of those, we were trying but we weren’t going to pressure ourselves with ‘We want a child right now!’ and all the things people can do to put pressure on that situation. We were good with whatever God had for us.
Her Advice For Women Worried About Having A Child Later In Life:
This is just my own testimony. We just look at it as God is going to do what God is going to do. And so if that’s part of your journey, if it happens at 44, if it happens at 24, if it happens at 34, whatever the case may be, it will happen.
Don’t make yourself crazy. It’s a cliché to say relax, ‘Let go, let God,’ but even with all the medical advancements and technology and everything, it’s really what is for you is for you. Sometimes we don’t want to wait on timing, God’s timing.
On Her Holiday Web Series, Holiday Love: The Rebirth
This is our fourth season doing “Holiday Love.” It’s a holiday special and each year we do a different storyline. This year, the rebirth was dealing with reminding people of the birth of Christ and the nativity. Also it’s also influenced by part of the journey of being pregnant and having Quincy at the top of December, so it’s just a lot going on about pregnancy and birth. And so my husband said, ‘Babe, what if for this year’s Holiday Love, we do the script where you’re directing this horrible fictitious reality show called Lifestyle of the Pregnant and Fabulous [laughs]. And these women who are these kind of fake celebrities, they’re competing to to have their child be born on Christmas so that the baby can be in the manger during the nativity concert, that’s an all-star concert. It’s just so much fun to poke fun at absurdities, you know? And so we’ve got a star-studded cast to help us execute this vision of a lot of laughs and a lot of great and inspiring music. The list still blows our mind. From Gary Owen to Debbi Morgan, Karen Clark Sheard, Tamela Mann, Donnie McClurkin, Marvin Sapp, Tye Tribbett, Jamie Grace, Lalah Hathaway—I mean, it’s just one of those casts where it’s like, ‘Okay, wait, stop. My head is going to explode.
Her Favorite Character That She’s Played:
I know people want me to pick one thing, so I think playing Regine might have to be the answer and that’s because she was sooo different from me. I mean the hair, the makeup, the clothes—when people see me they’re like, ‘Really, you were Regine!? You don’t look anything like that!’ I’ll be out in a heartbeat with no makeup on and some jeans and my Uggs. I think I had the most fun playing her because she was so different than anything I played and it pushed me out of my comfort zone. When you embrace being out of your comfort zone instead of fighting it, it’s a lot of fun.
How She Avoided The Child Star Curse
In terms of things like the drugs and alcohol, I was never one to experiment like that. I wasn’t curious like that. I’ve been very blessed as far as my faith sustaining me because it’s not like I haven’t been challenged and I haven’t been tested and disappointed. But my faith does really bind me and keep me.
How Her Mom Chip And Her Sister Alexis Are Doing
They’re both fine! Alexis picks and chooses when she wants to act because she’s a very gifted and inspired interior decorator, so she’s really carved out a career for herself in that. And then my mom is not acting any longer, she’s a full-time director and producer.
If She Keeps In Touch With The Cast Of Living Single
We all totally keep in touch. I’m supposed to see T.C. [Carson] either today or tomorrow. They all sent me text messages when I sent them pictures of Quincy. Erica [Alexander] and Sebastian have a special friendship and bond because they share the name Alexander, so he calls her Auntie Alexander [laughs]. But I don’t know if we’ll do a reunion. We did a reunion when TV One first launched episodes of Living Single. Every time any of the gang comes through Atlanta though, we always visit.
Kim Fields is just everything. Please be sure to support her holiday special on Sunday at 8 p.m./7 p.m. central as it airs on holidaylove.tv. Follow the series on Twitter at @HolidayLoveTV and on Facebook and pick up the soundtrack featuring Tye Tribbett, Tamela Mann and Fields as well over at iTunes.