Girl, Lemme Holla At Chu! Why Men Are Entitled To Approach Women

December 20, 2013  |  


From Single Black Male

Men have a large and difficult burden placed upon us.

We are the ones given the responsibility of “starting the mating process” aka … the holla.

The fact is, most s*xual encounters, marriages, and relationships all started when a guy decided to make a move and let his intentions be known. There are some forward-thinking women, but they aren’t doing numbers.

What this means is that the entire process of going from stranger to interested is managed by men. It’s just a burden that we take on to keep people moving forward and multiplying (survival of humanity really). Ya’ll birth the children, we’ll birth the conversations.

So, just as carrying a baby entitles you to the respect of all other people and the best gifts on parent-related holidays, we get something too. Our responsibility in managing the approach means that we get an important entitlement:

Men are entitled to try to “talk” to you at anytime, anyplace, anywhere … period.

I say this because we need to spend a lot of time searching for the right person. If you limit our ability to talk to you when you’re walking down the street, or mash our cart into yours while you are shopping for carrots, or to come up and put our arm around you at the club, we won’t make quota. Then, we would spend our lives searching for, instead of finding the right one and signing up for a life of commitment. Then we would all just be single guys trying to holla (irony!)

Please, I am kindly asking, great women of SBM … please don’t knock any man for attempting to get to know you.

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