When you’re in a new relationship it can be difficult to be patient. All brand new relationships start off as if they’re fairytales with plenty of puppy love to go around. However, if you want your relationship to last, know that time is a huge factor. As much as you want to move the relationship along, you may be doing more harm than good. Here are 14 signs that you’re rushing your relationship and could be setting it up for failure.
You’re around each other 24/7
In the beginning it’s not uncommon to spend a lot of time with your new man; however, this doesn’t mean that the rest of the people in your life should just go out the window. You may think that by spending more time together you’ll learn all you need to know about one another, but that doesn’t always happen. Don’t let a new relationship ruin those you already have with your family and friends. It’s okay to spend time together but time apart is just as valuable.
You’re already living together
Even though you’ve only been exclusive for just a few weeks, you and your new man are already living together in efforts to strengthen and grow the relationship. Living together is definitely part of furthering a relationship but living together too soon can be detrimental. It also puts you both in a bind if something were to not work out as planned.
You have your future planned out
Getting engaged and being married is already on the books and you’re already talking about how you two are going to buy a bigger home and start a family in just a few months. If you’re already planning a future with a man that you’ve only been dating for a short period of time, you’re definitely rushing your relationship. How can you plan a future when you’re still learning who each person really is?
Those three words are common
Love is an emotion that doesn’t come after just a few days of knowing someone. That’s lust. While you may love the idea of what this man may be or what the relationship could blossom into, it’s very unlikely that after just a few weeks you’re in love with each other. The rush of excitement and the attraction can easily appear to be love, but it probably isn’t. More like infatuation.
You get depressed when you’re apart
Anytime you two are apart, you find that you’re down and out about it. Work has become hell because you’d rather be spending time with your new man and when he has plans that don’t involve you, you’re sitting at home moping. If you’re a needy person, it’s likely that you’re one of those women who will rush into a relationship to gain a sense of security. Just remember, a man’s presence should not dictate your happiness.
His personality is still growing on you
When a relationship is rushed, the basis of things are are physical. You two are dating because you’re extremely attracted to each other but for now, you’re still determining if your personalities are compatible let alone acceptable. A sign that you’re rushing your relationship is when the physical connection comes long before the mental and emotional ones.
You have doubts
Somewhere in the back of your mind you have some doubts that things will work out as planned, but you continue on because right now the attraction and excitement are at an all time high. When you’re rushing your relationship, it’s not uncommon for you to feel a sense of doubt. Feeling anxious and unsure about things is a big red flag that maybe you’re both taking this way too fast. A secure relationship should be doubt-free.
You worry a lot
Your man hasn’t texted you for an hour and you’re worrying if you said something wrong. Or you two haven’t spoken on the phone in days and you’re afraid he no longer wants to be with you. When this type of worry consumes you on a regular basis, it’s clear there’s no real foundation in place. When you’re in a solid relationship, these petty worries simply just don’t happen.
You’re looking for comfort
Often times a lot of women rush into a relationship because they are looking for someone to comfort them after a breakup. Rebound relationships are typically rushed and are fast-paced because you’re just seeking emotional and physical comfort and nothing more. If you’re on the rebound, it’s likely that you’re rushing the relationship to get the comfort and care that you need.
Why you need to slow things down…
Things are less likely to work out
As exciting and fun as it seems now, rushing your relationship usually results in a lot of missed steps, especially the ones that are needed in order to build a solid foundation. There’s nothing worse than building up this perfect relationship in your head, only to have things crashing down because you decided that time wasn’t important in this relationship.
You may be settling for less
Relationships and the excitement they bring can often be blinding. In fact, after some time with this man, you may find that by rushing your relationship, you were actually settling for less than what you wanted and deserved and in the end the relationship isn’t what you dreamed it to be. Don’t let the first date fireworks blind you from the truly important things in a relationship.
The relationship won’t be healthy
While it can happen in rare cases, it’s not likely that a fast-paced rushed relationship will be healthy or long-lasting. You can’t expect much out of a relationship that was neglected of time. You and your man require time to learn about each other, accept each other, and figure out whether or not a relationship is worthwhile or not. A rushed relationship is usually an unhealthy one.
You may scare him off
Not very often will you come across a man who is looking to race into a relationship. However, if you’re sincerely on the hunt for a fast-paced relationship, in the end you are probably doing yourself more harm than good. When a man comes across a woman who is impatient and rushing the relationship, don’t be surprised if he’s immediately turned off and ends up disappearing.
You may regret it in the end
When the new relationship feelings start to die down, you may realize that this isn’t a man or relationship you want to be involved with. A fast-paced relationship is likely to lead to a lot of regret, which only sets you back in the dating game. Instead of speeding through a relationship, give it the time it needs to grow, mature, and stabilize. Otherwise you may regret it in the end.