14 Things All Couples Should Do Before Getting Married

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Getting married is an exciting part of life. There’s nothing more beautiful than two people pledging to spend the rest of their lives together as one. But through all of the planning and decision making, couples can sometimes forget that marriage doesn’t come easy. Before sending out the invitations, buying the dress, and saying “I do,” there are a few things that all couples should do.

Talk about finances

Money and finances play a huge role in a relationship as well as in a marriage. It’s important that before the wedding, you two have an in-depth conversation about finances. You’ll want to talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between. Make your debt known and take a look at your income. Be honest about all of this and then determine the way forward.

Bring up babies

Even if you two aren’t ready to be parents for years to come, now is the time to talk about children, before it all becomes reality. Do you both want kids? If so, how many? It’s important to know whether or not you two are on the same page when it comes to children before you make the walk down the aisle.

Live together

Though this may cause some controversy, one of the best things you can do before marriage is to live together (if your faith doesn’t prohibit it). You’ll notice that living together can bring out a whole new person in yourself and in your partner. See if you two can share the same space. Living together successfully really says a lot about a couple.

Really get to know each others’ family

Okay, so you don’t need to meet his second cousin twice removed, but it’s important that you meet the most important people in your man’s life, and vice versa. Be sure to introduce each other to family members, and always attend family gatherings with each other. Getting to know your soon-to-be-in-laws and new family is important, especially before getting married.

Have a huge fight

Now don’t go home today and pick a fight with your man, as that would be the wrong way to fight. But fighting before marriage is important. You want to know how each of you responds to conflict. Are you the silent treatment type? Does he yell and hit below the belt? It’s important to know how you two resolve conflict and deal with disagreements before tying the knot.

Travel together

Much like living together, traveling together will also prove how compatible you two are in close quarters. No matter if you’re staying in the next city over or flying to another state, traveling together will prove a lot. Traveling will determine how adventurous and spontaneous you are as a couple as well as how much stress and tension is created when you are in a new environment.

Share responsibility for something

Sharing responsibility for something before getting married is a big step towards growing together. Consider getting a dog, a cat, or some other pet, or consider taking care of a garden together. Find something that the two of you must take care of, in order to keep it alive, and see how the two of you are able to work together. Seems silly, but you’ll learn a lot doing this together.

Spend some time apart

Surely you two have time apart when you go to work and when you run other errands throughout the day, but before getting married, see how you two act when you aren’t able to see each other for a week or more. Determine if your emotions falter or if you two yearn and long for each other more than ever. Time apart will always do a relationship good, including a marriage.

Talk about your skeletons

We all have skeletons that we keep hidden in the closet. When you’re on the verge of getting married, it’s important that you’re able to air out these out and talk about them. It’s crucial to be honest about anything that you have hidden from your partner as well as to discuss anything that you may have forgotten to talk about.

Discuss your personal wants and needs

Of course your partner knows what you want and need, but before you make the walk down the aisle, be sure that your man truly knows your deepest and most important personal wants, especially those that will play a part in the future. Maybe you don’t want to live in the city anymore or maybe you refuse to live with a man who smokes. Before getting married, talk about your personal wants and needs, and make sure your man does the same.

Ensure you trust each other fully

Marriage is a huge step of commitment, and before you and your man take this leap, make sure that the two of you do not have any lapse in trust or faith. It’s critical that both of you have 100% trust in each other and that you believe and understand each others’ words. If there are trust issues, deal with them before getting married. Trust is crucial in a successful marriage.

Talk about life goals

Before you and your partner get married, take the time to talk about your true life goals. Where do you see yourself in five years? Where does your man see himself in that same span of time? Talk about employment, politics, religion, and family planning. If there are any disagreements, find a way to come to a mutual agreement

Associate with close friends

Apart from associating with your man’s parents, it’s important that you associate and become friends with his friends as well as anyone else he deems to be important to him. It’s crucial that the two of you are able to intermingle with each others’ friends and family. Since friends and family members will be present after the wedding, why not get to know them now and create bonds with them.

Decide if you’re both ready to get married

A marriage only works when both parties are engaged and ready for it. If you’re the one who pushed getting married and you’re the only one ready for it, your marriage is going to be a tough one. Before getting married, be sure that the two of you are truly ready. Just because he put a ring on it doesn’t mean you have to get married tomorrow. Take your time and be sure you’re both ready, emotionally and mentally, for a wedding.

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