Why Men Think Celibacy Is A Selfish Act

September 27, 2013  |  



From Single Black Male 

For some reason or another, the topic of celibacy was on my mind the other day. In the realm of relationships, the topic has always fascinated me. I wanted to bring you all my ideas and see if you could relate. Maybe some of you have your own stories to share. I look forward to reading them.

I will be the first to admit that when I’ve been in good sexual relationship, one question always rears it’s ugly head. I don’t know if the fellas would be with me on this one. I’ve been asked on a couple of occasions by a woman “What would you do if I said I wanted to be celibate?” Sound familiar? Well, I would usually answer quite honestly and say this: I might give it a shot, but I would probably leave. I promise you I couldn’t force myself to give any other kind of response. I truly feel this way in my heart. This here speaks to a deeper issue. My honest response wasn’t met with happiness or thankfulness. The response was quite the contrary, which should be expected, I suppose. Me  not wanting to go on the same journey as the woman I’m seeing was seen as wrong.

What happens in relationships when one party wants to abstain sexually and one does not?

A common answer to the question is, “easier said than done.” Many things are easier said than done, but there’s a lot of Isht we just have to do. So with a response like the one I gave above, many people would say you can’t just do that after being with someone for a long period. I can most definitely dig that.

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