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Some cook because they love to. Some cook because they need to eat. But if you’re New York Post Senior Reporter Stephanie Smith, you cook to win a most coveted prize: an engagement ring.

After about two years of dating boyfriend Eric Schulte, a computer programmer who loves to cook, Smith was wondering when the two would take the next step in their relationship. They had already moved in together in a swanky crib in Brooklyn, but as she said when sharing her story in the Post, “I wondered what it would take for him to propose.” Who knew that it might be a sandwich? After letting him cook most of the meals in their relationship, he had given many a sign that he just wanted a fresh homemade sandwich from his lady. To Smith’s surprise, after she concocted a turkey and Swiss sandwich on toasted wheat bread, he loved it so much that he told her, “Honey, you’re 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring!”

For some reason, she took what sounded like a joke and ran with it. She thought that if she made more intricate sandwiches she could become wifey material: “Maybe I needed to show him I could cook to prove that I am wife material. If he wanted 300 sandwiches, I’d give him 300 sandwiches — and I’d blog about it.” And she did. Smith is the mind behind, where she shares sandwich recipes and takes pictures of her mouth-watering work for the world–and for that ring. It’s a cute idea, but along with her friends and family thinking it’s a bit chauvinist and desperate, those who read about her story for the Post really didn’t think it was the cutest thing:

…people in relationships do nice things for each other, but not “for a ring”, they do it because they love each other and WANT to, putting caveats on how to “get” an engagement ring makes me want to barf, its 2013 girl, grow a pair.

This makes for an incredibly uncomfortable read. If he loved you, he’d marry you ‘sammies’ or not. End of.

So what does she say to that backlash? “First of all, he does most of the cooking in our house. And second, if he wasn’t the type of guy worth making one sandwich, I wouldn’t be making 300 sandwiches.” So she will continue making those sandwiches for her man, and she does say that since she started this quest, she’s found a new appreciation for cooking and food. She’s made almost 200 sandwiches since starting last year.

“Though I still want to get engaged and get married and live happily ever after, I’ve also put less pressure on the race to the 300th sandwich and I’m enjoying the cooking experience with Eric.”

And Eric is loving every minute of it, giving his lady–and readers–this tip:

“You women read all these magazines to get advice on how to keep a man, and it’s so easy…We’re not complex. Just do something nice for us. Like make a sandwich.”

Well, she better get that ring then. And a fat one. But if she doesn’t, I at least see a book deal on the horizon from this story alone…

I’m all for cooking because you like doing something nice for your partner, but cooking for the purpose of proving that you’re worth being a wife? That I’m not so sure of. What do you think?

Check out Smith’s site,, and her story over at the New York Post.

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