True Life: I Don’t Want To Have Kids
A lot of people erroneously assume that part of being a woman means you have a desire or a yearning to be a mother. Well, friends it’s high time we expand our definition of womanhood because that’s just not true. And if you don’t believe me, read some of the responses we got from our readers who said they’ve known for some time now that they didn’t want to have children of their own.
Debra: I decided as a teenager that I didn’t want children. I’m 53 now and have never had any. I don’t regret it at all. Children are not for everyone, and some who have them shouldn’t have. A lot of my friends don’t have them either…so, I really don’t get any responses.
Roxanne: I’ve known for most of my life I did not want to have my own children. It was never in me. I’ve never felt something is missing. But I also know I don’t know what I don’t know (the joys/pains of having children). Most people are offended by my “decision” to not have children, while others question what the meaning of my life is without offspring. I love children and have many nieces & nephews who I adore, I just don’t feel the need to have my own.
Still Chey: I knew when I was 12. No one believed me until I was 30. At 40, my mom closed out the savings account she had for her “grandbaby to be”…
Sonya: Though I LOVE children, I’ve never wanted my own. I knew from a young age that I didn’t want to be a mommy. The couple of times that I conceived, I did so for my partner and was ready. Miscarried both times (triplets/twins), but as luck would have it, I later married a man with 5 children (4 adults/1 teen) and now we have an amazing granddaughter.
Carolina: I knew when I was 9…I wasn’t having any kids…people look at me like I have 6 heads???!!!….Then I hear all the drama and think to myself Ummmmmmmmm that’s not for me….they say I am selfish…I say whatever
Vinita: I’m 43 and I decided not to have children when I was a teenager. I love my role as an aunt. Coming from a large family with little money, I thought of the sacrifices made and the struggles . I knew then I would not have kids, and I haven’t had any.
Breelle: I’m only 22 and I already know I do not want children. My family and friends say I will eventually. My relationship ended because of it. My life, my decision. Although I do think my mom running a daycare has a lot to do with it ! Lol been around kids my whole life
Michelle: I haven’t wanted children for as long as I can remember. I feel that I would have to give up so much and I’m not willing to do that. I’ve been called selfish and people have even told me that I won’t ever get married because all men want a child of their own. I’m almost 30 now and I still don’t want any even if that means I won’t marry. I don’t want to be pressured, shamed or feel obligated to have children if I don’t want any.
Sheena: I enjoy being able to make snap decisions about insignificant and major things without a moment’s notice
Kesha: I’ve never had a desire to be a mother. People (especially older relatives) say I should have one, so that way I’ll have someone to take care of me when I’m older. I’m sure that nursing homes are filled with people that thought their children would never put them there.
Tara: Me! I knew when I was about 11 yrs old that I didn’t want kids. I have two younger siblings that I always had to babysit. Thats caused me to be turned off to the whole kid thing. At almost 43, my mind had not changed. Some people have told me that I’m selfish, blah blah blah. I could care less what other people think. My body! My Life! Case Closed!