Djimon Honsou: “Marrying Somebody Can Actually Ruin The Union.”
So marriage can ruin a relationship? This isn’t exactly a new concept from a man but it’s interesting to hear it from Djimon Honsou. Then again, he might be speaking from personal experience. Though he and Kimora weren’t married in the legal, American sense, the two had a traditional Benin wedding in Africa.
Afterward both Honsou and Lee denied that they were ever married. But you can’t deny that that is some type of commitment ceremony to say the least. Perhaps, the way that played out had some effect on Honsou’s thoughts on marriage and its potential to taint an otherwise healthy relationship.
In an interview, promoting the upcoming movie Baggage Claim, Honsou had this to say:
“The idea of marrying somebody can actually ruin the union. Some people are very happy together for decades and they get this fantasy idea of going to get married and it’s just about papers. Signing papers. Eventually, it just goes sour.”
Oprah shared similar sentiments back in 2009. During an interview with Atlanta’s WSB-TV, Oprah spoke about her relationship with Stedman and why marriage wasn’t the path for them:
“Had we made the official marriage commitment, we wouldn’t still be together. The reason the relationship works is that we get to define it on our terms. It would be very different if we were in a ‘traditional’ relationship where I was expected to be a wife and every now and then cook a meal!”
I understand marriage is not for everyone. But is something as trivial as signing legal documents really going to be the straw that breaks the camel’s back? Perhaps it’s the expectations of how the person will or won’t change once they become a husband or wife that actually contribute to the ending of a relationship. Disappointment and feeling unfulfilled is the bigger issue, not some papers. Because if that were the case, the realtionship could have been ruined at any point throughout its history. What do you think of the notion that marriage destroys relationships?
Watch the video of Honsou’s comments on the next page.