Did You Watch? Syleena Johnson And Her Mom Have A Breakthrough On “Iyanla: Fix My Life”
This past Saturday, “Iyanla: Fix My Life” featured R&B Divas star Syleena Johnson and her mother Brenda Thompson who has been struggling with alcohol addiction. As we reported a few weeks ago, drama runs high for Syleena Johnson and her family.
When Brenda moved into Syleena’s home, confrontations, fighting and unresolved issues arose. Syleena told Life coach and therapist, Iyanla Vanzant her mother curses her out on a daily basis, even in front of her children. While working with Iyanla, Syleena revealed as a child she would hide in bags or closets as a game so her mother could find her. Although many would take her actions as playful, Syleena’s mother called it disrespectful and would respond by cursing Syleena and her sisters out and calling them b*****es and h**s. As a result of using this type of language to communicate with her daughters, Iyanla said Syleena and her sisters have been frozen in time. Although they are grown women with their own children, partners, and careers, they still relate to their mother as though they are small children. In her opinion, their mother-daughter relationship with Brenda never fully developed into adulthood.
During Saturday’s episode, it was also revealed that Brenda, who was the first female police commissioner of Harvey, Illinois, often used the same skills she developed as an officer on her children. Brenda raised her girls to not fall victim to vulnerability, a toughness that was rooted in her own childhood. Brenda attributed her behavior to bullying and growing up in a rough neighborhood. Brenda also revealed that she never felt loved and uses alchohol to make her unaware of the past or present and numb emotional pain.
Throughout the episode, Brenda’s demeanor is noticeably hard. She had a difficult time admitting she failed her daughters and even believed them to all have a great relationship. Taking no responsibility for behavior she told Iyanla she believed Syleena to be a drama queen but Iyanla quickly shut that notion down, telling her that by deflecting Syleena’s experience, she is not taking ownership of how she treated her.
Syleena and her mother were seemingly able to diffuse their pain through an emotional heart-to-heart exercise that involved exchanging how they both view one another. The two even wrote a song, “My Heart Is Open” that was recorded by Syleena. Syleena stated it was the hardest song she ever sung or had to write. Although there were some celebrities who felt Iyanla did not help them with their issues, Syleena said she is happy she participated in the series and that” Iyanla: Fix My Life” opened the door for her family to seek group and personal therapy. Brenda has sincestopped drinking and stated she and Syleena are living peacefully together with Syleena’s family. Check out video below of Syleena and Brenda performing “My Heart Is Open” in front of Iyanla. What did you think about the episode?