Tracee Ellis Ross Says She’s Flattered By Hair Praise, But Wants Black Women To Love What They’ve Got On Their Own Heads

June 18, 2013  |  

There’s a bit of an unspoken trend in the natural hair movement of women kissing perms goodbye, not really to embrace their own curl patterns, but to achieve the texture of some other woman with natural hair whom they admire. One of the women who’s often on the receiving end of that admiration is actress Tracee Ellis Ross who, since her days on “Girlfriends,” has inspired many cases of hair envy among black women. But feeling a sense of responsibility after catching a meme on Instagram of a little girl crying with the caption, “That moment you realize you don’t have Tracee Ellis Ross’s hair,” the funny lady took to YouTube to release a video on the rather serious nature of hair envy. She said:

“I am geniunely am honored and tickled and excited by the fact that people like my hair. It’s really nice when people like something about you, especially when they like something that you worked so hard on and used to hate. I used to hate my hair. My hair was so much work. It’s still a lot of work. But it’s a lot of work with a lot of payoff now.”

Challenging the notion that her hair is better or easier to style because she’s biracial, Tracee said her dad being white has nothing to do with her having some type of “very special hair.”

“It’s not true people! We all have different textures, different ethnicities, different mixes different curl patterns. I’ve had a journey of figuring this hair out.”

Detailing her press and perm struggles, her transition period, and finally coming to a place of loving her own locks, Tracee added:

“I’m flattered and honored and so excited that you like something that was tough for me. But at the same time, I don’t want you to want my hair. The reason I don’t want you to want my hair is I’m of the school of love what you’ve got. For me, the reason my hair was such a battle is because was trying to make it something it wasn’t. I wanted the hair that somebody else had. And because of that I was damaging my hair and trying to beat it into submission….

“I love that you love my hair but I only love that you love my hair if it’s an inspiration for you to love your hair.”

Now that’s a message more black women need to hear. Check out Tracee’s full vlog below. What do you think about what she said? Have you been guilty of trying to make your natural hair into something it isn’t?

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