Romantic Love ‘Happens,’ True Love Is ‘Created:’ Jada Pinkett Smith On Why Successful Relationships Require More Than ‘Good Sex’

June 14, 2013  |  

41-year-old beauty, Jada Pinkett Smith, is known for utilizing her Facebook page to tackle some pretty interesting subjects. Her latest discussion was about relationships and the requirements necessary for true love to flourish. She initially started out by posing a question to her Facebook followers.

“Is a man’s heart in his p#*!s?

Ok…I need my Facebook family to help dissolve a debate between a few girlfriends and me in regard to this question, “Is great sex the only need, or primary need, for a man to have a good relationship with his partner?” Everyone put a YES or NO before your comment so that it’s easier to count the results. I will post the outcome tomorrow,” she posted.

The next day, she followed up by sharing her perspective on the debate, stressing that true love is a choice and something that is “created,” as opposed to romance, which is something that simply “happens.”

“I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it? Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us…effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a grand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings. Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance.

True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love…then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting…true love.

Remember this… When we engage in the dance of love…we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers.”

Would you agree?

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