In a recent episode of Jermaine Durpi’s web series Living The Life (where he chops it up with different celebrities), he sat in the studio with the very pregnant singer Monica. Aside from trying to lay down tracks, they had a conversation about how she makes her family life work (two sons from a past relationship with rapper Rocko, and now a marriage with baller Shannon Brown, who has a son of his own), why she likes being needed as a wife, and why when it comes to the father of her oldest two children, she doesn’t feel the need to get the courts involved in any child-support issues, since he’s not the type of man to not provide for his kids. Here are the tidbits that had us talking:
Her feelings on Jermaine Dupri saying she’s the perfect woman and “baby momma” a guy needs…
“I don’t think I like the term baby momma. Let’s be clear, I have two sons. I had an 11-year relationship with two sons that came from that. I am now married with another child on the way. So I don’t really know where the baby momma term fits.”
How she maintains a healthy co-parent relationship with Rocko, and why she doesn’t get the courts involved in matters of their children:
“People always ask me, how do you make a blended family work? It is what you make it. First order of business is, as parents, we have to respect one another. I don’t believe in the court system, I’m not stepping in no courthouse. I’m not calling no people. Let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but I feel, for me, I feel like a real man would be man enough to assess the needs of his child and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you, and I don’t need to call the people for you. So, since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my oldest children, at all. Period, point blank. When it’s time for it to get done, he can asses their needs, come in and see what they need, and it gets done.”
Speaking on men who don’t do for their kids, why Shannon Brown is the “ultimate man,” what makes a “good girl,” and why women shouldn’t nag and complain too much to their men:
“That is you and your type [points to Jermaine Dupri], let’s say that’s A type male. There is still a type of man, cause I got girlfriends, that deal with the type of man that is simply selfish. Some of them don’t give nothing. Now you got the A type male: my husband is a man’s man. My Mother’s Day was incredible. But I don’t expect anything but good love, honesty is a must, and respect. So everything else happens on its own. I’m going to say this to any woman cause I got two brothers: Nagging, complaining, annoying is the worst thing you can ever do. I had to learn that too cause I know you can tell that I can get in my own way sometimes because I want to speak it like it is. But I’ve learned some things you just lay back, and my husband, being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he shouldn’t be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floor and all that…I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t want to be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss. That’s just it. You got some women..some high-society women that will argue me down. I’m not looking for an argument, I just know what will and won’t work in my house. But the sad part is, guys say good girls are no fun, but good girls are always where they run when trouble comes. That’ll be me. And trouble can be anything, that can be heartbreak, loss of a family member, that could be change of jobs, that can be trying to pursue your dreams, cause I’ve been there for some of that too.”
Really interesting interview with some even more interesting points made. Click to the next page to check out the conversation she had with Dupri about all of this, which starts around the 5:00 minute mark.