A Word Of Advice: Stop Dating And Be Courted

June 10, 2013  |  

From YourTango

Advancements in our modern day society have provided women with a newfound sense of financial freedom. Compared to fifty years ago, more women can buy their own home, pay their own bills, purchase luxury items and afford nice vacations. The only problem is they can’t buy love. If you’re a successful woman who is struggling to find success in your love life, it’s not your fault. Over the decades, love has become a bit more complicated.

Back in the day, relationships were easier because they were well defined. There was courtship instead of dating. Men wooed women. Now, men and women hang out and hook up. Many people have sex thinking it’s the beginning of a relationship rather than having a relationship first and then expressing their love and commitment through sex.

Casual Hookups Raise Insecurities

In dating, physical intimacy tends to happen before commitment. When you have sex before getting to know one another (and one another’s intentions), it’s the exception that your encounters will turn into a healthy love relationship. You’ll tend to behave and act in ways that you think will please him, rather than show your real self. Instead of saying what you completely mean, you’ll only partially say what you mean.

When sex happens before commitment, you’ll tend to read more into the relationship than what’s actually there. You’ll think there’s more of a connection then there really is. You’ll think that he’s more into you than he really is. Then you’ll become disappointed, sad or angry when things don’t work out.

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