While Jada Pinkett Smith has been very open about sharing her own brand of advice on love and life through her Facebook page, when it comes to her own relationship with Will Smith, she doesn’t want anybody in her business–including the media or her friends.
In an interview for the new issue of Redbook, Jada discussed the effect gossip has had on her relationship, avoiding getting her friends involved in her marriage, and the only thing that she could think of that might warrant her feeling the need to end her marriage (and it has to do with her kids of course). Here are a few of the highlights:
On dealing with the rumors people make up about her and her marriage, and why she doesn’t let it get her down like it does others:
“I have been affected by gossip and I know people who have been too. I’ve seen marriages destroyed by gossip. It is cruel. At the end of the day, all that matters is: Do you love what you see when you look in the mirror? That is it, baby.
She also talked about how she can’t imagine ever abandoning Will, no matter what he does–unless it negatively hurts the children:
“What is the thing that Will could do that would make me not love him? That would make me abandon him? I can’t think of one. I’m sorry. Except if he did something bad to the kids – now we’ve got a problem. But that’s it. We’ve had such an extraordinary life together.”
And while she definitely appreciates support from her friends, she says that she won’t accept their opinions on her relationship with Will. For one, it’s none of their business, but also, she wouldn’t want her friends trying to take sides. Any problems she has with Will, she’s taking straight to Will:
“It is dangerous. Intimacy is a very complicated thing. There is nothing I could ever say to anyone that would give them a clear understanding of what happens between us – so why get anyone involved?
[Will and I] work all that out with each other; that’s part of being in an intimate relationship. If you are giving your life to someone and this is the only person you deeply love, then you should be able to come to that person with anything. There shouldn’t be a person I need to talk to outside of him. And I don’t want my friends, who have a great affinity for both of us, to feel like they have to take sides.”
True that! If you want to read the rest of Jada’s interview, where she clarifies her comments on open marriage rumors and talks about working with Queen Latifah on her upcoming talk show, pick up the newest issue of Redbook, which is available on June 11.