She Told That: Tamar Opens Up About Past Abuse, Plastic Surgery & Self Esteem Issues
In addition to being in abusive relationships, Tamar’s self esteem and confidence was also battered by her vitiligo.
“Anybody with skin issues knows that that’s a very sensitive subject. And that’s why I’ve never shared that I have Vitiligo, because I do. I’ve always had it, since I was a young girl. It’s not as bad as others because everybody has it differently, but I’ve certainly had mine diagnosed. That’s why I tan. People say, “You bleach your skin!” But I tan just so I can have a better tone on my skin, boo!… It does weigh on your self-esteem. It really does.”
But she says that Vince has been the one to help her develop her self esteem.
The thing that I love the most about (Vincent) is that he’s helped me with accepting what happened to me and helped me realize that that’s not my make-up, (being abused) is not who I am, it hasn’t hindered who I am, it hasn’t stopped my integrity. I really appreciate him more and more everyday because he’s helped my self-esteem issues so much.
On the plastic surgery rumors…
“I don’t have plastic surgery. I never had plastic surgery. I had a nose procedure done because I had to. I had no cartilage in my nose, I have a piece of cartilage from my ear put into my nose. I had a medical procedure done. I have no plastic in my nose. And when I shared that with the world, now I have Botox, and different kind of fillers. Now I touch my face, which I never touch my face…Everything is real on me.”“
Why there’s a gospel song on her new pop album…
And she’s also a woman of strong faith, which is why she made sure to feature a gospel track on her album “Love and War.” “A lot of people don’t get second chances. This is my sixth record deal,” she says. “This doesn’t happen. I knew I could sing and I knew I could dance but nobody really believed that much (in me) so I (had to be) really strong in my faith and I know if it wasn’t for God, I would not be here. I couldn’t do this album without people knowing how I feel about it.“
Read the rest of Tamar’s very candid interview over at Ebony.com.
