She Told That: Tamar Opens Up About Past Abuse, Plastic Surgery & Self Esteem Issues
Tamar is the Braxton sister we either love to hate or hate to love. She’s definitely an acquired taste. But in a recent interview with Ebony.com, Tamar shed some light on why she is the way she is. If you watch Braxton Family Values faithfully, you may remember the episode where Tamar remembers how she was in two abusive relationships, back to back. She told the story of how one boyfriend drug her out of her apartment by her hair. (Sounds like something out of a Tyler Perry movie.)
Here’s what she had to say about the relationships:
“I can’t make anybody believe, I can’t change anybody’s mind about anything. (The abuse,) it happened. I’m not all the way comfortable with sharing a lot of what happened to me (yet), but what I said was true. When I’m ready to talk about my abusive past I will, I’m sorry that I’m not. But if it wasn’t for (God), I wouldn’t be here.”
She said being abused and feeling like she had no power or say in her relationships “definitely, definitely, definitely” play a role in the way she interacts with people today. She says wanting to attack before she can be attacked is a defense mechanism.
“I haven’t always been vocal about my feelings, especially in a relationship. Now, I make sure that I’m very vocal about my feelings, everybody knows how I feel. Sometimes it’s over the top and most of the time it’s ‘Team Too-Much,’ But I have to do a lot. (I was) a shy person who had self-esteem issues trying to figure it out — now, I’ve gotten over my hangovers. You say, I’m comfortable and confident, it took a long time to get there. Maybe like a year or so before “Braxton Family Values,” I wasn’t that person. I was faking it til I make it, pretty much.”