At A Loss For Words? Good Topics To Talk About On A First Date
When it comes to the first date, there are all sorts of emotions and thoughts going through your mind. Nervousness and awkwardness aside, you know that you want to make your best first impression, and once that is done and over with, you’ll then have to move onto the talking phase. During the first date, there are definitely topics that you’ll want to cross off the list, but most importantly you’ll want to keep a conversation going to avoid the awkward silent moments. Here are 14 things to consider talking about.
His must-haves in a woman
First dates are all about determining whether or not you two make a good match or not. During the first date, don’t hesitate to ask what he looks for in the women he dates, and hopefully the question is reciprocated. This way you’ll have a good idea as to whether or not you two should take things further or not. Of course, don’t make any rash decisions if you don’t fit the mold entirely.
His interests and hobbies
Does he like sports? Is he a car enthusiast? Is he a musician on the side? Aside from dating, you’ll want to know what type of activities this guy likes. Hopefully you two will have some interests or hobbies in mind. If you do, it’s a good sign that things can hopefully grow into something more. Knowing his interests and hobbies also makes it easier to plan dates that you will both enjoy.
While you shouldn’t pry about marriage and children, asking about his future plans can lead to a good conversation. Find out if he wants to travel around the world, change his career, or pick up a new hobby to keep him busy. Compare your future plans to his and see if you two have an experience that you both have in mind. Be sure that this conversation isn’t too focused on marriage and children, or else it can become too much for the first date.
Learning about a man’s job can say a lot about him. What type of career path is he headed for? Is he only working part time so that he can earn a degree? How long has he had his current job? Does he like what he does? These are all great questions that will keep the conversation lively. Maybe you two have similar career aspirations or maybe he has some really interesting stories to tell you about his job.
Don’t get into the mindset that you’re trying to inch your way into his family. Instead, ask simple questions, such as if he has any siblings, who his oldest family member is, whether or not he’s closer to his mom and dad, and so on. Family questions are a good way to determine how his family has shaped him and whether or not his family structure is one that you’d eventually be welcomed into.
Funny past date experiences
Lighten up the conversation by asking about some of his worst past date experiences and stories, and definitely share some of your own! Sharing past stories of failed past dates is a good way to get each other laughing and hopefully making the date a lot less awkward and nerve-filled. Laughter is one of the best ways to making a date lighthearted and enjoyable for the both of you.
Pop culture preferences
Talking about celebrities, music, and T.V. shows are some of the best ways to see where you two connect pop culture wise. Maybe you watch the same HBO series as he does or maybe your favorite R&B group happens to be one he really likes as well. Though these connections are likely, it’s always nice knowing that you two enjoy the same music or the same television shows.
To add a little bit of surprise, shock, and fun into the conversation, definitely ask each other to share unknown stories and facts. Maybe he has a hidden talent or maybe he has a dirty little secret that he doesn’t share with everyone. Sharing random facts and stories with each other is a good way to get to know each other on a different level. Plus it allows for plenty of laughing and shocked faces!
It’s always interesting to learn what each others’ pet peeves are. Not only will you know how to not get on his last nerve, but you’ll also be able to maybe relate to each others’ button-pushers. Of course, if things don’t go well, you could always use this against him in a playful way! Who knows, maybe you two will have a pet-peeve or two in similar.
Getting to know each others’ favorite things is a good way to get a conversation started and keeping it going. Ask about his favorite movies, cuisine, music, celebrity, pet, book, and so on. Knowing his favorite things is a good basis for planning dates in the future, further conversation, and if things go really well, a good basis for picking him up a random gift or two along the way.
There’s always something interesting and news-worthy going on in the world or even in your local neighborhood. While you’ll want to avoid hitting political or overly religious topics, anything else is game. Talk about a crazy story that’s recently hit the airwaves or talk about an article that you recently read. This is the perfect convo to share opinions back and forth.
Talking about travel and vacation is always an interesting topic. Maybe you’ve been somewhere exotic and you want to share your story or vice versa. Definitely mention any interesting stories you have! You can also talk about future travel plans or places that the two of you dream of being able to travel to one day.
What do you dislike most about dating?
Everyone, even men, have something that they really hate about dating. Whether he has the first date jitters, is afraid of being stood-up, or has just had some bad experiences. Dating is never 100% fool-proof or perfect, so it’s nice to get to know what the two of you cannot stand when it comes to dating. Plus it may help you in the future so that you’re able to avoid upsetting or offending him.
Is he a nail-biter? Does he hit up the gym every single day in order to keep up with his physique? Ask him about the habits he has, even the not-so-great one! This will allow you two to have a little bit of fun with each other while still learning something useful. Who knows, maybe you two both have a bad habit that you can work on fixing together.