How To Get Over Resentment For A Parent
I knew that if I ever wanted to have a relationship with her, I had to put it all out on the table.
I became a relationship coach to help understand and accept my own relationship hang-ups, most of which can be traced back to my relationship with my mother. Infants need lots of touch and holding in order to develop what psychologists call “secure attachment.” I was one of those children who was deprived of that. While it is true that Mom (now deceased) was one of the sweetest, most supportive mothers I know, she was also shy about her body and uncomfortable with physical touch.
Since I didn’t get that nurturing touch from Mom, I grew up feeling like I always wanted “more” in my relationships with men. I think a lot of us feel something like this—a deep inner sense that something is missing, that either you’re somehow lacking or your partner is.
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