On Eve And Her Plans To Raise Her Bi-racial Children Colorblind

May 3, 2013  |  

“I don’t see color.”

“I don’t want my kids to see color.”

“I’m going to raise my kids not to see color.”

These are some of the so-called PC phrases I hear all too often from either people who have been accused of being racist or mothers of biracial children. It’s the go-to, cover-your-butt, I-believe-all-people-are-created-equal catchphrase that people, seemingly unconsciously, throw out whenever they find themselves in an uncomfortable discussion about race as if raising one’s child color blind is a good — or even attainable — thing.

Eve is the latest celeb to go the colorblind route in an interview with Vibe Vixen. The magazine asked her whether she and her boyfriend Maximillion Cooper plan to have children, and if so, what they’ll teach them about race and identity. Here’s what she said:

I want them to be colorblind, but I do want them to understand both sides of themselves. I’m a black woman and I love being a black woman. And I think my child should know that black part of themselves. But obviously at the same time, their father would be white and I would want them to know that side of themselves. And British! That’s  a whole other situation (laughs). But in doing that, I think they can be colorblind. I don’t want them to see color. I never did. I grew up in the hood and my mother was very good at it not being a black thing, even though I grew up around all black people. I want them to want to know everything about all kinds of races. And hopefully they will.

After reading Eve’s comment, I can’t help but question why is the idea of raising your child to see and accept other cultures such a difficult concept? That’s not being colorblind, that’s being a respectable human being. We all have the capability to see those things that make us different from each other racially and ethnically and still appreciate and respect them — if raised right. Yet it seems to be the socially acceptable thing to say you’re just going to raise your child to not see the different skin tones, hair textures, eye shapes, and physical compositions of those around them. I’d much rather help my child embrace all the unique beauty his racial makeup ensues and show him what’s equally beautiful about someone of another ethnic origin, rather than throw a blank slate across everyone and say we’re all the same when that’s just not the truth — or doing him any service.

Race is going to come up with children. Eventually, they’re going to want to know why someone looks different from them, and instead of just saying “oh they’re just like you,” why not explain why they look different, while emphasizing they are the same in the sense of importance, but unique in race. There’s nothing non-PC about that in my book.

What do you think about the idea of raising your children colorblind?


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