Q: Dr. Sherry, I am so frustrated with my relationship. I have been married for 10 years and the spark is just not there anymore. We have both stepped out on each other during separation periods, and somehow we have still managed to get back together. I love my husband, but I do believe that we have grown apart. I feel used and unappreciated. And, to make matters worse, the sex is definitely not what it used to be. I want to make this work but that is a two-way street that I am traveling down alone. We have not had sex in months and I am not sure what it is. I ask those hurtful things like, “Is it me?” or “I am not in this marriage by myself.” I want more out of life and he is comfortable with where we are. I don’t know how to get him motivated. Please help!
See what celebrity psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake has to say about this situation on Essence.com.