While there are plenty of movies that give us unrealistic expectations for love, planted—sometimes hidden—in some movies are the most true words about love. So here’s to pulling the gems of truth out of the usual fluff that is the romantic film.
When the planes hit the twin towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge — they were all messages of love. — Love Actually
Speak to and spend every day with the people that you would speak to if you only had minutes left. Because when you do only have minutes left, you’ll regret any moment you ever spent hating someone, because you could have spent them loving those that you loved.
Medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for. — Dead Poets Society
Never forget, when you’re spending all night building your business, or when you’re agreeing to go on that fourth business trip this month, that the reason you get up in the morning to work is so that you can have the money that will give you the stability that will allow you the time to be with the people you love. When you climb up the pyramid of needs, you do everything so that you can have and enjoy love. So when you allow work to push your relationships out of your life, you’ve forgotten the whole purpose of why you worked in the first place.
The greatest thing you’ll ever learn, is just to love and be loved in return. — Moulin Rouge
There is an equation to just about anything else you want to know. Knowledge about anything besides love is accessible to absolutely anyone. But completely understanding another person, to the point where you can love them without judgment, and completely understanding yourself, to the point where you recognize you deserve love, without judgment, will be the toughest thing you ever learn. Don’t underestimate the important of self reflection, or even of therapy. Nobody just figures themselves out one day, without putting in any effort.
Maybe it is our imperfections which make us so perfect for one another. — Emma
You’ll find plenty of people that will love you for being lovable—for being attractive, intelligent, charming, famous. But the people who really love you, love what is not “conventionally” lovable about you.
And now, I’m back…and I’ve lost her all over again. I’m so sad that I don’t have Kelly. But I’m so grateful that she was with me on that island. And I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring? —Castaway
After even the most devastating of heartbreaks, you actually cannot be miserable forever. Why? Because it’s not sustainable. One day you’ll realize, “Oh wow. I actually will feel like this forever unless I decide not to.” Because you’re going to keep breathing, like it or not. So once you realize you have to pick a day to stop being so miserable, you may as well pick today.
I need to feel strongly, to love and to admire, just as desperately as I need to breathe. — The Diving Bell and the Butterfly
Yes, it is scary to love because you might get your heart broken. But don’t try to get by just to live, while avoiding strong feelings. Those are a part of living too. And without them, you’ll die. It will be subtle, and it will be slower. But you’ll die without something to love.
…I might be the only one who appreciates how amazing you are in every single thing that you do, and … I watch them, wondering how they can watch you bring their food, and clear their tables and never get that they just met the greatest woman alive. And the fact that I get it makes me feel good, about me.—As Good As It Gets
Be with somebody that can see how amazing you are, even when you’re not doing anything amazing. Even when you’re unemployed or sick, or waiting tables. Because those days will come. And only a person who can see how amazing you are when stripped of all your glory, will stay with you no matter what.